soulforge2010 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 she dumped me twice in the past, and ended it again 2 weeks ago, i have been ignoring her every attempt to contact me, ignored all her email. she emailed me twice 2 days ago, asking me to text or call her. i got a text off her today, claiming she is pregnant, i broke no contact grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr and aksed her if she is serious i think she is playing games, how do i proceed? cant believe i broke no contact is he playing games to pull me back in? i have another thread on here "would i be a fool to take her back" please read
Crila16 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 I don't know what to say, except sounds like there may be a lot of game playing going on. If the pregnancy thing is true...you're going to be a dad...if it's not, do you really want to be with someone who would stoop to such a low level to manipulate you? The decision is yours.
Author soulforge2010 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 I don't know what to say, except sounds like there may be a lot of game playing going on. If the pregnancy thing is true...you're going to be a dad...if it's not, do you really want to be with someone who would stoop to such a low level to manipulate you? The decision is yours. i am certain she is manipulating me? she has a coild fitted, also she is saying she does not want it. confused
Author soulforge2010 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 she is claiming there is only a 50% survival rate for the baby, because she has to have coil removed. sounds like excuses for not having a baby, even tho she is claiming she is preg
Tree_Salmon Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 she is claiming there is only a 50% survival rate for the baby, because she has to have coil removed. sounds like excuses for not having a baby, even tho she is claiming she is preg My ex did this a few times. For her it was a mind game to keep me on. I would be highly skeptical.
Author soulforge2010 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 My ex did this a few times. For her it was a mind game to keep me on. I would be highly skeptical. how did you deal with it?
weallfalldown Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 ditto that, had that with 2 x women before......it's an act of desperation, or could be....
Author soulforge2010 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 ditto that, had that with 2 x women before......it's an act of desperation, or could be.... yes judging by her emails, she seems desperate, telling me how much she misses me, and wants me back, but since i contacted her today, to find out if she is pregnant or not, she seems cold and not interested? is this a game, how did you guys deal with this situation?
weallfalldown Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 women are very manipulative over emotional creatures.....i'm gona get bashed here......just ignore her....and if it is true, for god sakes get a DNA test done!...
Author soulforge2010 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 women are very manipulative over emotional creatures.....i'm gona get bashed here......just ignore her....and if it is true, for god sakes get a DNA test done!... either way, she is claiming she will not be able to have the baby. so my guess is, she is pretending to be pregnant, then a few weeks later she will claim she could not keep the baby? what a nasty thing to do
weallfalldown Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 either way, she is claiming she will not be able to have the baby. so my guess is, she is pretending to be pregnant, then a few weeks later she will claim she could not keep the baby? what a nasty thing to do yep pure emotional blackmail, and manipulation...that's what they do when bitter!!
Hobbit Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 You obviously have to check. Bringing a child into the the world should be taken very seriously From the sounds of it im certain she'll say in a few weeks that she lost it and play the sympathy card to friends / family thus making you out to be the villan Watch your step mate
Author soulforge2010 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 You obviously have to check. Bringing a child into the the world should be taken very seriously From the sounds of it im certain she'll say in a few weeks that she lost it and play the sympathy card to friends / family thus making you out to be the villan Watch your step mate but this is the problem, if i remain no contact, it will look like i don't give a crap? but 80% of me is certain, she is not pregnant. this is some ploy to get me back, or to take her out of her misery for not contacting her. she already said, she would not be keeping it, in her text to me, now she claims it would be a very low survival rate due to her coil, sounds like a cop put to me, a away for her to wiggle out later and say, oh the baby could not survive. is this kind of behaviour sick? i really do want to be a dad, but with this woman?
Tree_Salmon Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 how did you deal with it? Well most of the time i knew when she was full of s**t so I just acted supportive but knew she was full of it. So when the truth came out I was fine either way. Even if you are concerned about it try to stay calm. Just because shes nuts doesn't mean you have to be. Give her some support and watch as the story unravels. Sounds like attention to me. And if not, you'd be stupid not to get a paternity test. But I highly doubt this is true.
Author soulforge2010 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 Well most of the time i knew when she was full of s**t so I just acted supportive but knew she was full of it. So when the truth came out I was fine either way. Even if you are concerned about it try to stay calm. Just because shes nuts doesn't mean you have to be. Give her some support and watch as the story unravels. Sounds like attention to me. And if not, you'd be stupid not to get a paternity test. But I highly doubt this is true. did you get back with her? and was she pregnant
TaraMaiden Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 soulforge2010, send her a simple text: "If it survives and you give birth, we'll do a DNA. If you don't have a baby, then that's as it is. contact me again when - and if - you give birth. not otherwise. good luck." This says everything you need to say. No more, no less.
Tree_Salmon Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 did you get back with her? and was she pregnant Of course she wasn't pregnant. It was all a mind game. I got back with her because i was already used to her emotional personality. But it didnt last long. It got old. If its not working a baby isnt going to change things.
ThatJustHappened Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 Whoops..did not read the whole thread! Yikes..my advice is...RUN!
pteromom Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 I'd want to call her on it. I'd show up on her doorstep with an HPT in hand.
Author soulforge2010 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 i sent her a simple text message saying, can you provide me with a test pregnancy result? she totally flipped out!!!! she said "i am not a liar, if it means that much to you, i will take a pregnancy test tomorrow & will post it through your letter box tomorrow, don't worry i do not want anything from you, nor do i need anyone" i sent a text back "i am not saying you are a liar, but would just like to see the result" she text back "i will send you the paper result next week, after i have been to the doctors, and the last thing i ever wanted is to be pregnant by you" she said after she has given me the result, it is nothing to do with me anymore!!! i think she is very angry because i ignored the emails she sent me a couple of days ago, she wanted me to contact her, she sounded pretty desprate and low, i only read the emails today. wow she sent me some nasty cold messages, but i just ignored them & did not let her suck me into an argument, she is acting annoyed about the fact i texted her, but only 2 days ago, she was pleading for me to contact her. hot and cold??? is this a very manipulative dangerous woman? i know she must be hurt, because i went into no contact, but its her who walked out & ended things not me
Author soulforge2010 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 also i get the feeling that she may actually be pregnant, and she is using this against me??? i am thinking about telling her not to have the baby, as i would be stuck with this crazy woman for the rest of my life? i should tell her, a baby is a bad idea, as there is no chance i could have a lasting relationship with her... she has dumped me twice before, i do not feel safe with her
pteromom Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 also i get the feeling that she may actually be pregnant, and she is using this against me??? i am thinking about telling her not to have the baby, as i would be stuck with this crazy woman for the rest of my life? i should tell her, a baby is a bad idea, as there is no chance i could have a lasting relationship with her... she has dumped me twice before, i do not feel safe with her If she really is pregnant, your best course of action is to NOT give an opinion on what she should do about the pregnancy unless asked. If she DID end up having a baby, you'd be painted as the jerk baby daddy who tried to get her to abort it. Just don't go there. It's her choice. Sucks, but that's the way it is. Don't get back with her no matter what she does. If she ends up really being pregnant, and ends up keeping the baby, you will have to decide what you want to do. But don't worry about that yet.
Author soulforge2010 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 If she really is pregnant, your best course of action is to NOT give an opinion on what she should do about the pregnancy unless asked. If she DID end up having a baby, you'd be painted as the jerk baby daddy who tried to get her to abort it. Just don't go there. It's her choice. Sucks, but that's the way it is. Don't get back with her no matter what she does. If she ends up really being pregnant, and ends up keeping the baby, you will have to decide what you want to do. But don't worry about that yet. would it be a mistake for me, to try to get back with her?
pteromom Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 would it be a mistake for me, to try to get back with her? I don't know. Only you know the answer to this. Do you think she's capable of a mature relationship? Does she bring more happiness to your life when you are with her than sadness and insecurity? You have to weigh everything you know about her to make that decision. BUT - don't get back with her just because she is pregnant.
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