ndlp7831 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 So I've been married for around 2 years now to a military guy. He was gone a whole year, and just recently in around February came home for good. Now we have our good days, but when they're bad, they're awful! Everytime we fight he leaves. No matter how stupid the argument he's gone, and without fail I'm left home crying, not to mention we have a two year old in the mix. So just recently we moved to my moms, and I find out in pregnant. After that things just went down hill. Every little thing I do turns into a fight and he packs his bag then goes to his friends. Every time he says he's done and he can't live with the kind of person I am. That I'm mean, and I treat him like crap, and every time we work it out, but for some reason this time I feel like I've had enough. I'm 7 months pregnant and alone with no job, anda 2 year old while he goes and stays with his friends not to mention I'm only 21 years old.I've given up my life for this marriage and all he does is leave any chanc he get, it's so hard for me to ignore him or not wanna talk about us because I do love him, but he doesn't ever wanna talk about us. Every time we do it n a fight. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm so confused about everything. What do I do?
Downtown Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 NDLP, welcome to the LS forum. It sounds like you've got a four-year-old (the one you're married to) in addition to the two-year-old. And it sounds like you may be married to a man who is emotionally abusing you. Please provide us more detail about your H's temper tantrums and mood changes so we can give you better advice. For example, does he suffer from PTSD? Are his mood changes event triggered, occurring in seconds, or rather, do they come on gradually over a period of two weeks? Do the tantrums last about five hours? Does he (or you) have a history of having been abused or abandoned in his childhood? Do you believe his anger suddenly grew worse on hearing you are pregnant or, instead, may be caused by his interest in another woman?
Author ndlp7831 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 I agree 100% he's like a kid. I've messed up to don't get me wrong, but the one thing I never did was take my love away. He doesn't suffer from any sort of depression as far as I can see. The one thing I do know is his parents split up going on 2 years ago after 27 years of marriage, and I don't feel like he ever felt with it properly. I also don't know how to help him. I feel like my hands are tied at this point. He's moved all his things into his friends house, and he has yet to even mention our marriage. I definitely feel like their is no consideration for my feelings or my being pregnant, and like he just doesn't care. The last time I talked to him about it all he said was that he couldn't deal with of not admitting to my lies. Which I don't even know what he's talking about. It just all seems like one big game so that he doesn't hafto deal with this anymore. He just doesn't wanna admit that he gave up because it was hard.
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