Texas90 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 My ex of a month jumped at the opportunity to clear the air with me over her dumping me "I don't feel like I love you anymore". I say that as she's suggested meeting when I was happy to have a phone call about it. She's a GIGs case. 21 and friends are telling her she is too young and can't believe she's slept with only me. Been together 4 years and never broke up in that time. I love her dearly but I'm seeing the GIGs feeling myself. A few dates lined up and never had so much attention. Should I meet her (or am I allowing her to feel better)? What should I say if I don't want to close the door or beg her back? We parted on good terms and there's been no begging over the last month for her to reconsider.
soccerrprp Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 My ex of a month jumped at the opportunity to clear the air with me over her dumping me "I don't feel like I love you anymore". I say that as she's suggested meeting when I was happy to have a phone call about it. She's a GIGs case. 21 and friends are telling her she is too young and can't believe she's slept with only me. Been together 4 years and never broke up in that time. I love her dearly but I'm seeing the GIGs feeling myself. A few dates lined up and never had so much attention. Should I meet her (or am I allowing her to feel better)? What should I say if I don't want to close the door or beg her back? We parted on good terms and there's been no begging over the last month for her to reconsider. Why meet her? It sounds like you're getting attention from other ladies and that is certainly an opportunity for you continue healing from this. She said that she didn't love you anymore...that's that. The chemistry is gone. If the meeting is about her explaining why she dumped you, her words were clear enough, don't you think? Yup, you're enabling her and making you the victim (again). Just move on with the other dates you have line up. BTW, in a similar situation. I've moved on, but still have contact with my ex. We are trying out this friendship-thing (yeah, yeah, dangerous ) and so far so good. No sign that she is wanting to get back together. Phew!
BooBoo1982 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 Why meet her? It sounds like you're getting attention from other ladies and that is certainly an opportunity for you continue healing from this. She said that she didn't love you anymore...that's that. The chemistry is gone. If the meeting is about her explaining why she dumped you, her words were clear enough, don't you think? Yup, you're enabling her and making you the victim (again). Just move on with the other dates you have line up. BTW, in a similar situation. I've moved on, but still have contact with my ex. We are trying out this friendship-thing (yeah, yeah, dangerous ) and so far so good. No sign that she is wanting to get back together. Phew! Why phew? You wouldn't want her back?
Author Texas90 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 I had wrote a letter to her explaining I agreed with the break up being needed. If that makes any difference. I've sided with the break up honestly not to play games but I do think she's worth another shot. She felt suffocated so I think it's kind of worth an apology / explanation and then walking away without begging or asking for a second chance...
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