Boss-man Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 I'm a guy who puts a woman's personality first and her beauty grows with each day I get to know her. Maybe I've got some kind of attraction to a girl in need, like a damsel in distress. I recently starting hanging out with an amazing girl, she's the entire package, but she's fresh out of a serious relationship. We've hung out without anything physical and just gotten to know each other but then as the time went on we couldn't fight our urges and just ended up going all the way. We both felt terrible the next day and now I think whatever spark she might have had for me is gone because I was simply a rebound. She doesn't want to cut me out of her life, she's apologized for using me and says that she just wants a singing buddy (essentially just to be friends) who thinks she's wonderful for who she is, rather than a great guy for her to hurt by being selfish. I don't know how she's feeling, and I can't figure her out. I mean I've been heartbroken but not in a long time and I've just sorta become callus to that sort of heartache. But I also can't stop thinking about her. So I'm wondering, do I just go about my business and back away from her, be nice and friendly but show her that I won't smother her and won't be her "confidence boost"? Would that maybe work? I just don't know what to do, if I go into the friend zone I'm gonna be even more heartbroken than I am now and It's been forever since I've been hurt, I kinda got used to the simplicity of being alone. Even if it is lonely.
Feelsgoodman Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 It's really sad... The whole pu55ification thing that has been going on with men the last decade or so has taking a major toll on young men. Fellows, Stop watching = Glee, Gilmore Girls, Sex and the City, etc. This. The original post is so cringe worthy, I'm literally at a loss for words. OP, have some self-respect for f*ck's sake. Stop being a loser nice guy to be used and abused by scores of attention whoring, unscrupulous women.
irc333 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 Wow, even after sex, a woman will still put a guy in the FZ
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 Minus the sex part, this is actually my dream scenario with a girl.
fishtaco Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Why is getting laid a bad thing? You should have been dating multiple women to begin with. Then right now, you won't even care because you'd have other women you're seeing. Well, you'll probably feel bad anyway. I know I would. Getting turned down is always a negative impact on your self esteem. But I'd get over it in about a day. Because I'd be busy dating other women. Anyway, good job getting laid. Now your mission is to get laid again. Try to sell it to her that you're cool with just being FWB, and that you won't try to get all romantic and stuff. You can just hang out, have fun, and have sex sometimes. Unless you already spill the beans, then that'd be too late for that. And then, date other women, as many as your schedule will allow. The best way to find a GF is to have someone you're sleeping with while you look. Kind of like it's easier to find a job when you already have one.
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