irish31 Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 It seems to me that there are two different types of this "syndrome. Theres the one where a long term bf/gf leaves for the spark and excitement of a new guy or girl and the type where they leave to be single, party and go wild (sow their wild oats) my question is "in which case are they more likely to come back for good and if so which takes longer provided it was a good and loving relationship which they left"?
Author irish31 Posted August 23, 2012 Author Posted August 23, 2012 I realise that your more than likely right but i guess im just hoping for the same miracle as everyone else on here. It makes it worse bc ive had a few friends who have had this happen with their gfs and two of them are getting married. In these cases it lasted about a year. I almost wish i didnt have that information because among a million other things it keeps me hanging on to false hope of a happy ending
Van Damm Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Your friends were some of the lucky few. You need to believe that there are people out there better than your ex, of course this takes a concerted effort in changing the way you think. Ex's are ex's for a reason - it's very easy for the dumpee to feel that their relationship was so special and amazing that it needs to be salvaged - hence we backtrack and don't move forward. Where G.I.G is concerned whichever way you cut it, they left because they wanted an "upgrade" and in these modern times where everything is pretty much disposable, its best to adopt the thinking of whatever will be will be. Not much room left for hope. Over time I've learned a valuable lesson where relationships are concerned; go with the flow and not have high expectations.
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