Texas90 Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 (edited) Hi, I was with my ex-girlfriend for 4 years. We lived together for 2. Over this time I changed from the social and fun loving guy who was out all the time to someone who was quite settled in a relationship. I'm 22. My ex was similar to me as her friends all seemed to leave her out of things but recently (last 6 months) a few of them fell out of relationships and things picked up for my ex socially. She would be out with her friends who were trying to pull in nightclubs. I was working 2 jobs and studying so I was putting my social life on the back burner as I am quite ambitious about my career. She's less ambitious and is content to stay in the area for her whole life just like her friends. I became quite needy, especially when she went away on holiday with the girls and I think I turned them against me by going OTT in some arguments. When she returned she was totally against planning long term etc and didn't know what she wanted. But she said she loved me and couldn't hurt me like that so we kept it together for a month but all the while her friends were telling her to leave me. I think I came across more needy because when we had a discussion a month ago she said we needed to do more stuff together but then kept going out when I was free. Obviously this got me upset because I thought things will go down the pan if we're not doing stuff... Anyway things did go down the pan 3 weeks ago. "I can't lie to you anymore, I don't think I'm in love with you". The funny thing is she told me her friends didn't know how she felt and it wasn't their business because she loved me just a few days before when we had a very calm talk about things. Anyway, we broke up and I said "if that's how you feel I can't do anything about it" and she moved out. 1 week went by and she text me what I was doing with the appartment we shared (9 months of contract left to go). I asked if this was definately what she wants in my reply and that part was ignored. A week later I arranged to get my stuff by text. I made it clear there were no hard feelings and I could see why she broke up with me but it'd be nice to clear the air on a few things we broke up over. I left her a letter saying the same with a little more detail about what I'd come to realise over the last couple of weeks and wished her the best of luck in the future. Her father told me that she felt suffocated and trapped in the relationship and isn't looking for a new one. The next day I got a text late at night saying we could meet up to chat next week. Apparently this is to clear the air like I said and I said yeah that's fine with me. So it's been 3 weeks. I have the opportunity to meet her and I want her back. I've not begged at all since the split but I don't know what to do at this point. I've realised settling down isn't what I want either and she is an amazing girl I feel I pushed away This is our first breakup/rocky patch. Edited August 23, 2012 by Texas90
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