Maeva Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 (edited) So after meeting someone who 'didn't want a relationship' and blowing hot/cold, I met someone else (quite quickly). Now I'm not getting all excited just because I don't want to come off as needy or anything. I guess after reading too many books (I know...) I've come to the conclusion that men should go around chasing women but that's just not who I am... I enjoy asking guys out, but I usually try to let them chase me as well. Anyways! So, I'm not sure how to act; I was out of the dating scene for 6 years (I'm now 28) and it seems like I don't know the 'rules' anymore. Long story short, I met him about 8 years ago via a mutual friend and while there was attraction on both sides nothing ever came out of it for reasons I don't even remember (I was troubled at that time, so I'm pretty sure that's my fault!). Anyways; met him last week, we had dinner and it was great. He asked me to sleep over but I didn't. Then he texted me about 24-48 hours after our first date and asked if I had any plans for the weekend; and we made plans for sunday. We spent the afternoon/evening/night together. He basically asked if he could sleep over. We had a great time; had a picninc, spent time outdoors and, yes, spent time in bed. When leaving the next day he asked me what my schedule was like this week. I texted him on monday, asking him if he wanted to come over on thursday night (which would be today); he said that was too far and if we could see each other on tuesday instead; if I was available. I told him that could work but only after I've hitted the gym. So we spent the evening/night together again yesterday and he slept over. I don't want to go too fast; I like the guy and COULD see it going further, but at the moment I'm not 100% sure but I don't want to mess this up by acting too needy or being played. There are no feelings involved at the moment; I just enjoy spending time with him. He seems to enjoy spending time with me, since he doesn't only want to do stuff where were are naked... I just don't want to have any expectations and then be dissapointed. I just don't know how to act! I seem to be doing ok, but am I? We text each other once in a while, and whenever I text him he instantly replies. I texted him today letting him know I was free tonight. Turns out he isn't but he suggested we see each other tomorrow instead. Am I doing too much of the 'chasing' part? I'm thinking of letting him plan the next date... ? What do you all think? I guess I just need tips and/or reassurance Edited August 23, 2012 by Maeva
Leegh Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 I would let him do most of the "chasing". Sometimes in the early part of a relationship, I think it's good if the man is unsure of how the woman feels about him. A little mystery is nice. I would play a little hard to get, but not too hard to get, or he may think you are not interested. For example, if he sends you a text, wait a while before you text him back. Possibly if he asks you out for a certain night, you could tell him you are busy, but the following night would be fine. Use your good judgment and you'll be fine.
Author Maeva Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 I would let him do most of the "chasing". Sometimes in the early part of a relationship, I think it's good if the man is unsure of how the woman feels about him. A little mystery is nice. I would play a little hard to get, but not too hard to get, or he may think you are not interested. For example, if he sends you a text, wait a while before you text him back. Possibly if he asks you out for a certain night, you could tell him you are busy, but the following night would be fine. Use your good judgment and you'll be fine. Thanks, I think you are right. I'll let him do some of the work as well...
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