What is my Ex up to?

[The Duch3ss]

I dated this guy for four months, at first I thought we were perfect for one another. Then he started acting different and it hurt my feelings. I got upset and broke up with him. Very soon after I realized that I had made a mistake and I missed him dearly. I apologized and ask him to take me back. We went out for another month or so. Our relationship was never the same after I broke up with him. After another month he broke it off with me and it broke my heart. I love him so much and wished I could fix this. I ask him if we could be friends because I didn't want to completely let go. He said yes, we should be friends! He told me he needed to bring my bike back to me. I ask him to bring it one evening or one weekend. He said okay sounds good. It's been a month and he has still not brought it to me. I ask him about it a few weeks ago and he said I didn't know you wanted it this weekend. I said I didn't, I just figured you would want to get it out of your way. He doesn't initiate any contact with me at all. He did text me to thank me for a birthday card I sent him yesterday. He responds to my texts, but that's it. I don't get why he says he'll bring the bike if he doesn't want to or isn't going to. What is he waiting on? I told him I have no way to get it and he continues to say he will bring it. I really don't understand what Is going on. I miss him dearly and I want to see him so bad. Anyone got any ideas of what he's waiting on?

[Crila16]

He's not waiting on anything. He's not bringing you the bike, because he has better things to do. It's not first and foremost on his mind. You're pining for someone who sounds like he's over it. That's why you don't ever end things with someone, unless you really mean it. Playing games with people's emotions will only screw everything up. When he was acting differently, you should have just talked it out, not decided to end it if you loved him or didn't really mean it. You probably ended it with him at that time, to try to get him to change. That's nothing but a game, cause you were trying to manipulate him.

 

Love isn't supposed to be this much work, especially in the beginning. It was ONLY 4 months. If you want your bike back. Get your bike back. There are always other ways. You don't have to rely on him. Txt him and say, coming this wkend to get my bike. Please have it there. Thx.

[The Duch3ss]

I honestly wasn't playing games with him. I just didn't know how to handle something's that we're happening and panicked. Regardless, afterwards I realized that having him the way was is better than not at all. I simply made a huge mistake and now I'm paying for it with a very broken heart.

[Lisa_Lisa]

That happened to me once. My boyfriend wasn't treating me right. He'd say things like what are you doing tonight? I thought it meant we were going to see each other. Silly me. He'd say I'll call you later and he'd never call. I felt like he was leaving me hanging - and this is when we were boyfriend and girlfriend. I couldn't take it anymore and decided to end it. He was perfectly ok with it. And I thought I'd made a big mistake. Having him around was better than not having him at all. I tried to get back with him and he took me back, but treated me even worse than in the beginning. I'd turned into a FWB girl instead of girlfriend without even knowing it. Luckily, I met someone else and it turned into a wonderful, healthy relationship.

 

My point is, if he wasn't treating you right in the beginning, breaking up with him and getting back together is just a way for him to rip your heart out since he'll feel like he has control. And it's true. He doesn't care to bring your bike over cause that's just not on his mind. Tell him you're coming for it. And leave him in the dust.

[Crila16]

You think having him in a way that makes you unhappy is better than not having him at all??? You must be very young. Please have more regard for yourself. You are telling yourself that settling is better than being alone. With settling comes misery. You're not respecting your wants and needs. He wasn't fulfilling them. That's why you were unhappy. He's not the one for you. You need to patient until the right one for you comes along. I know you can't see it now, but the compatible one for you will blow your mind and this guy will be nothing but spam to you.

 

Don't ever settle for less than what you want and expect, otherwise, men will walk all over you for the rest of your life. Desperation can be smelled from miles away. Begging is extremely unattractive. Confidence is a turn on. You need to work on your self esteem.