heartbrokeninharrow Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]The man I love so dearly with all my heart left me six months ago to be with his ex. She has three children by another man and was pregnant by her boyfriend at the time. My ex broke my heart into pieces and I was a broken woman for many many months. I love him dearly. He is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with and I knew this from very early in the relationship. We have kept in touch. He was, for a while, quite protective over me and he gets extremely jealous if he thinks I am dating and admits that it drives him mad. He has now told me that he is leaving his current girlfriend at the end of the month as it didn’t work out with them and I desperately want him back. I told him that I loved him and would he consider giving it another chance but his reply was that he wanted to be on his own for a few months to sort his head out. I think he might have another woman but I cannot be sure!. Otherwise he is still in love with his current girlfriend (the one he is about to leave- or she is going to kick him out). I know he doesn’t love me although he cares greatly. He says we were good together and if it wasn’t for his ex coming back into his life we would be together forever. I know he values the relationship we had and he admits that I know him so well and I feel we could still have a future once the heartache is over. The problem I have is how on earth do I get over this guy. How do I stop the pain in my heart. How do I make the obsession go away.I am starting counselling next week and I talk to my friends about it quite a bit but they are all tired of listening about this guy who they thought loved me and was really into me but now they don’t like him because he hurt me so badly. How do I stop the pain of heartache? [/FONT][/sIZE]
Crila16 Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 Oh GOD...what a loser. He gave you up for a woman with 3 kids from another man...who was also pregnant at the time from a completely different man? Ok. In this situation, you have to stop looking at the present and your feelings for him...cause those feelings will fade after about 4 - 5 years. Then you're stuck with the person, so you better damn well like him as a person. He doesn't sound like a good person. With any relationship, you have to think smart. You can't look at the moment, you have to think about the person 10 years down the road. Will he provide for me. Will he support me. Can I trust him (THAT's A BIG NO!!!). If I have children with him, will he be a good father. You really have to look at him for what his is, and take off those rose colored glasses. He doesn't sound like any prize to me. Be careful what you wish for, because you just might get it. 1
weallfalldown Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 women need to be a little more sensible as to who they drop their knickers for.........simple!......but then again, there's no telling some retards.... that's his prob......move on..
Author heartbrokeninharrow Posted August 23, 2012 Author Posted August 23, 2012 this makes me feel better. i still love him though and wish with all my heart I could be with him. Believe it or not i am a senisble woman who just turned 40 and have a very intelligent professional job so i would not consider myself a bimbo but love hurts and when it hits there is very little we can do when the heart wins over the head. i know i shouldnt want him and I miss him terribly and i know it is not a good relationship which is why i really want to get over him and move on. not to another relationship but just over the pain for now
weallfalldown Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 you will, just give it time, we all hurt....... 1
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