Leegh Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 Does anyone have an opinion as to whether moving to a new apartment (my ex and I had many wonderful times here at my current apartment), would help significently in getting over him? The relationship is over, and has been for a long, long time, and he has moved on, (I never hear from him), but yet I still think about him a lot. Has anyone had any first-hand experience in moving after a break-up, and its effect on the healing process? In other words, am I stuck in the past by my living situation, or do you think moving would not make much difference? I would be moving up the street to a new apartment about a mile, (to still be near my work), so I would still see my current apartment building while driving). I value your opinions. Thanks in advance for any help.
Mint Sauce Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 Can't you do a major makeover? That's if you're the owner. If you're just renting, I'd move.
weallfalldown Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 i understand...... I've luckily never had to stay in the same place after a breakup, it must be hard with all the memories..... Sometimes if you can do it, if it's poss, yea move, change it all.........new start go for it...
Crila16 Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 Yes. It does. That's what just happened with an ex of mine from 2 years ago. He lived next door to me. If we knocked down a wall, it could have been 1 apartment. After 3 - 4 yrs together, I ended it. I just didn't see forever with him. He stayed in the apartment for 1 more year after the breakup. After he wasn't able to get over me and I didn't want to get back together, he said he had to move because it was too painful of a reminder. Once he moved out, even though I wasn't in love with him. I felt so empty without him there, I moved out. I felt 100% better, like I was moving on with my life and a weight was lifted. So. Yes. Move. I know you had happy times there, but it will be constant reminder. Start a new and fresh. You need a different energy now.
jmjacobs31 Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 I moved after my break up, although I didn't have a choice, but once i was in a new place, my own place I felt better. it was nice to know I was in a place that he never had seen.
Me13 Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 I moved after a bad break-up, and think its the best thing I did. We lived together for 2 years, but I only lived in the town we were in because of him... so I suppose it was a no-brainer. He offered to leave me the flat as I had paid for it and everything was mine, and I told him he could keep it and pay me out because there was no way I could possibly begin to heal there. I could never imagine staying somewhere where both have lived whilst trying to heal... but that's just me!
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