BooBoo1982 Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 Just before we broke up me and my ex went on a road trip around Europe yesterday while Facebook snooping (I know I shouldn't) I noticed that this weekend two months after the breakup he changed his background photo to one of our holiday photos, a photo of his car and great scenery in the background but I'm sat in the car, it's not obvious because you can only see the top of my hat but I know it's me and he knows it's me so would he really want to see this every time he looks on Facebook, there are lots if similar holiday photos without me in so why not choose one of these, does this mean he's completely over me?
Author BooBoo1982 Posted August 23, 2012 Author Posted August 23, 2012 Anyone got an opinion on this, it's driving me crazy thinking it means something when it probably means absolutely nothing.
woodbeez Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 you pretty much answered yourself when you acknowledged the fact that you shouldn't engage in facebook snooping. if you'd refrain from doing that you wouldn't be having all those thoughts now. it is possible that he just likes the photo and that the fact you're in it doesn't affect him in anyway. there are other possibilities as well. they're probably not relevant to you. some people regard photos and other things differently from others. for starters you shouldn't have him in your FB because that calls for just more "snooping". each time you'll do it you'll just come back with more questions, and probably lots of pain. save yourself, delete him, block him, and try to focus on healing yourself. stomping on a grave won't bring the dead back, it'll just make it harder. 1
Renard99 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 I think you hit the nail on the head when you asked 'am I thinking too much'. I think you're try to see what you want to see and that's causing a lot of anguish. I once posted a picture on Facebook that had my ex in long after the break up. She was only in the background but you could definitely see her. A friend of mine said to me 'you do know that she's in the pic. I thought after breaking your heart you'd have steered clear of a picture with her in'. In all honesty, I hadn't even realised she was there. I just thought it was a wonderful photograph of a landscape. My feelings didn't come into play, except maybe pride at my photography. Your best bet is to ignore it. You need to cut him out of your life totally, especially Facebook. As Woodbeez says, delete him, then block him on facebook. Remove all temptation to snoop. I snooped on my ex twice and felt awful both times. Don't do it! The only time you should be concerned about his feelings for you is when he approaches you and out right tells you that he has feelings for you. Anything else is just you guessing. 1
Author BooBoo1982 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 Thanks for this, you are right.
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