youngnlove89 Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 I got an odd text message from him tonight, "u called..." that's all it said. I didn't call him. So I don't know why he thinks I did. I deleted the text right away so I wouldn't respond. The last time we talked was when I told him to NEVER contact me again, lose my number and to f%&* off! (3 days ago) He has gone to work now so I know he can't text me anymore, and I haven't responded. But why did he do this? Today was really hard for me. And it's like he knows when I'm down, when I'm most vulnerable. Today, I missed him so much and then he just had to text me and make it worse.
not-a-drive-by Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 You did a great job by deleting that text. He probably wants attention from you or testing to see whether you were serious about the whole NC thing.
weallfalldown Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 u called means nothing.....just wants an ego boost.....if he really wanted you, you'd know about it.....just hang in there ...
KatZee Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 my text back woulda been.. "u wish..." But I'm just a snarky, sarcastic, a*h0le. Lol. Keep strong. 3
Crila16 Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 Yeah...he's totally looking for attention from you. He's playing games. Don't fall for it. It's the only way he'll take you seriously.
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 23, 2012 Author Posted August 23, 2012 I haven't texted him and I don't plan on it. I never got another text from him either. I don't know what his deal is, but darn it, I should have said "u wish" haha!! Still that would be contacting him and I don't want to do that. Today is a good day considering how bad yesterday was for me emotionally. I realized how he did me a favor by letting me go. Even though he told me several times how I wasn't the one, I am starting to realize that HE WASN'T THE ONE FOR ME! I composed a list: 1. He never bought me anything besides dinner every now and then (and then even complained about how broke he was, but yet had enough money for everything he needed and wanted) 2. He didn't take me on any of his trips that he went on with COUPLES 3. Never bought me anything for holidays including my birthday, not even a card 4. Called me a disgusting pig once 5. Was horrible at communication 6. Told me I was only 95% the one. Who says that? 7. Always nagged on me about not screwing the lids on things (that really annoyed me) 8. He was controlling, if I drank a Red Bull he wouldn't talk to me for the rest of the day. He wanted me to quit coffee and if I didn't he was mad at me. 9. Ignored me for 4 days on his recent trip because he didn't want to "confuse" my feelings. HA! He just basically used me when he wanted something. Now, I am free and I can find what I really want in a guy! Now I have given myself the opportunity to love again and be loved in return! I'm excited! 2
Bazamu Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 Are you ready to jump in another relationship already?
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 23, 2012 Author Posted August 23, 2012 Are you ready to jump in another relationship already? NO! I didn't mean it like that. I meant that now I can find myself, love myself and when I'm ready I'll look for someone else. Right now I still (I don't know why!) have feelings for my ex. I wouldn't be able to go out on another date without comparing him. That will just take time. But he has given me the opportunity to find love in better places. I should thank him one day.
Crila16 Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 This guy sucks. He's horrible. He was trying to beat you down. That's not what you want for yourself. Ditch this guy. What a loser.
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 23, 2012 Author Posted August 23, 2012 This guy sucks. He's horrible. He was trying to beat you down. That's not what you want for yourself. Ditch this guy. What a loser. And now I found out he is back on the dating site we met on. And guess what his picture is of?! The picture I TOOK OF HIM! Why is he doing this to me?
stemac Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 (edited) @youngnlove89 well done your on your way to getting back how you were before you met him he is the the loser , hes lost you and 1 day he will know it :-) keep your chin up :-) don't go on the dating site you don't need it at the moment seeing him will only give you pain, not worth it Edited August 23, 2012 by stemac
Kite Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 Good job! He's on the site because he's getting lonely. Hence the text to you. Doesn't even have the balls to say he want to talk to you or misses you! 95% (haha) guarantee that he will regret losing you. You loved him enough to put up with all his faults.
Crila16 Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 I agree with Kite. He's on the dating site, because he's lonely and desperate to find someone....anyone quickly. Having friends who have been on the site for years...along with I myself trying it...I've never personally met anyone of calibur...and neither have they. Online is a quick fix to build your ego and get attention. When you open your email and have 30 emails and winks in your inbox...you feel like a rock star...until you open the emails. Then a majority of the time you're disappointed.
salem mark Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 this guy is a total controlling loser and waste of your precious time
weallfalldown Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 do me a favour.......and don't take this the wrong way........ please come down to earth a bit, before you try and meet someone else, I've read your online profile. 1
Drseussgrrl Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 Agreed. And girl come on. A tag line of "I HAVE BOOBS AND MAKE SANDWICHES" isn't going to attract quality dudes. Just the same ol' ones looking for NSA sex. 1
Tree_Salmon Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 NO! I didn't mean it like that. I meant that now I can find myself, love myself and when I'm ready I'll look for someone else. Right now I still (I don't know why!) have feelings for my ex. I wouldn't be able to go out on another date without comparing him. That will just take time. But he has given me the opportunity to find love in better places. I should thank him one day. Yeah don't date right now. You're still a mess. A cute mess.
geegirl Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 Agreed. And girl come on. A tag line of "I HAVE BOOBS AND MAKE SANDWICHES" isn't going to attract quality dudes. Just the same ol' ones looking for NSA sex. I'm not sure how this information was made available, but OP you sound young and if you did post this on your profile, you have to know that describing yourself in such ways will not attract favorable men. You are doing yourself a disservice and treating yourself with disrespect and trust me that the only men that will come your way are the ones that want your boobs and will want you to make them a sandwich after they're done with those boobs. If you want to find men that will want to treat you well, start treating yourself well first. Otherwise, you're bound to get involved with men like your ex. Create a profile that speaks about what's interesting and valuable about you as a person.
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 23, 2012 Author Posted August 23, 2012 Yeah don't date right now. You're still a mess. A cute mess. Yea, I got rid of my dating profile just now. I kind of went on it trying to get back at my ex, but that's immature. I need to grow up now. I need to start being the strong woman I'm meant to be. STARTING NOW! That site is a waste of time anyways. All those men are looking for one thing. Gibson said it best.
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 23, 2012 Author Posted August 23, 2012 I'm not sure how this information was made available, but OP you sound young and if you did post this on your profile, you have to know that describing yourself in such ways will not attract favorable men. You are doing yourself a disservice and treating yourself with disrespect and trust me that the only men that will come your way are the ones that want your boobs and will want you to make them a sandwich after they're done with those boobs. If you want to find men that will want to treat you well, start treating yourself well first. Otherwise, you're bound to get involved with men like your ex. Create a profile that speaks about what's interesting and valuable about you as a person. Thank you. I was just using that as a joke. I didn't take that profile seriously at all and I wasn't expecting to meet anyone. It's deleted now
Tree_Salmon Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 Yea, I got rid of my dating profile just now. I kind of went on it trying to get back at my ex, but that's immature. I need to grow up now. I need to start being the strong woman I'm meant to be. STARTING NOW! That site is a waste of time anyways. All those men are looking for one thing. Gibson said it best. Like I said, you're a bit of a mess and going through those stages. We're not going to abandon you for it. And you may want to start right now but you're probably going to go through allot more pain. In the meantime, there really wasn't much wrong with your profile. I thought it was funny and you were wacky. There was sarcasm there. I don't see the big deal. 1
Tree_Salmon Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 Thank you. I was just using that as a joke. I didn't take that profile seriously at all and I wasn't expecting to meet anyone. It's deleted now I was actually going to make a fake account and joke around but now its too late.
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 23, 2012 Author Posted August 23, 2012 I was actually going to make a fake account and joke around but now its too late. haha oh darn, well we can play now if you want! I liked my profile, it's who I am. I am very sarcastic, witty and I joke around a lot. I love to smile and the last thing I was serious about was that profile. 1
Tree_Salmon Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 haha oh darn, well we can play now if you want! I liked my profile, it's who I am. I am very sarcastic, witty and I joke around a lot. I love to smile and the last thing I was serious about was that profile. Oh, we'll get to play
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