K4RM4 Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 Yesterday, I sat down and had a long thinking session about the future of my relationship with my girlfriend. I love her a lot, but honestly, it seems a little "fuzzy". By that I mean im a little unsure of whats going to happen. Were going off to the same college in a month or so and I think its great we wont have to work off a long-distance commitment. Weve been dating since the beginning of our senior year in high school, so almost a year as of now (Were both 18). I think a lot of people would tell me not to worry about the future and "live in the present," but if I cant see myself marrying this girl, then it kind of destroys the whole purpose of dating right? I think these are some of the reasons why Im a little unsure: - College is a whole new experience. Even though were going to the same one, theres going to be thousands of new people, new ideas and new adventures. I dont want to hold her back from discovering new things and Im sure she doesnt want the same for me. I think the biggest thing Im worried is that one of us is going to meet another person. Cliche, but a legitimate concern. - Shes a religious girl and im not. She doesnt believe in pre-marital sex or drinking. Ive respected these ideals and dont drink or pressure her to have sex. But hypothetically, if we were to get married, it probably wouldnt be for another...7 year or so! Thats a LONG time to be dating. This also means that I would go through college without a seemingly integral part of the whole college experience. She once almost broke up with me over this very same situation. She thought we were too ideally-different and were going to lead two different lifestyles in college and as a result, start growing apart and disliking one another. - Becoming bored. As an influx of new, fun things come, I dont either of us to realize that there might be better out there. I think when we do go off to college, Im going to try and distance myself a little to give her a little space and keep things fresh, which is going to be really hard because one of my main relationship flaws is that Im very protective (aka insecure). I really love her and Im still looking forward to college with her. I think its going to be great having the girl I love by my side in what is hopefully going to be some of the most exciting years of our lives. Has anyone else experienced this? Honestly, I dont have it that bad because were only going to be living like half a mile from each other. I REALLY REALLY dont want to break up with her. Even if its for the best, I dont know if I could ever recover after becoming so attached. Am I too young to be even thinking of marriage? Please dont be too critical, Im not very experienced in terms of relationships. Thank you!
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