peppermint Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 I am 24 years old nd m in my first serious relationship with current bf. My mother dumped me with my grandma two months after I was born,til this day I've never met her. my granny passed away when I was 8 then I had to move in with my dad who had been absent in those 8 yrs. Living with him I learned that he was a drunkard who couldn't keep a job. I had seven step mothers in six years. Sometimes to punish us he wouldn't buy food. He became sick when I was 12 nd I had to take care of him. I would hear people talking abt him sometimes saying that he has aids, some of the kids would make fun of the situation.he died when I was 14 then my brother took care of me nd now we're both doing well. Growing up like this has made me a hard person. I am unable to show my emotions to others. This is affecting my relationship wth my bf. I do tell him that I love him sometimes but he's not convinced he says he doesn't feel it. Is there a way I can show him or make him understand that I truly love him without having to be too vulnerable. M not ready to talk to him about my life cos it's painful for me. I just dnt want him to doubt my feelings for him. How do I make him understand? Thnx in advance
Disenchantedly Yours Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 Wow Peppermint, you have to be an amazingly strong person to have gone through all that. I'm glad you had your brother there to help you along the way. I always found that doing something active with a guy is a good way to bond (err....typed that as "bone" at first lol), and show him you care. What kind of activities does he like to do? There is another thread talking about women cooking, maybe you could cook him a meal? Think about things he likes to do and how the two of you could do them together. Perhaps a pair of tickets to whatever event he likes? I also have a little more advice for you. I can relate to it not always being easy expressing yourself to others and making yourself vulnerable to them. But I also know that when you push yourself out of your box a little, and you do those things you aren't fully comfortable with, they eventually do become comfortable. If you aren't very affectionate, start off small, touch his arm, hold his hand, give him a quick kiss on the cheek when you come home..start off with little things and you will get more comfortable. I hope this helps you a little. Let us know how it goes.
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