If you could take a pill and forget the one who broke you heart...would you?

[Feelin Frisky]

In a sense there is a pill. Well, medication anyway--benefical medication that helps one overcome pattern-thinking and emotional excesses, not "self-medication" in which many people abuse all kinds of substances to make themselves feel pleaure in the moment while the pattern of excessive dwelling on trauma is never exposed and done away with. I have done both. Neither is perfect but only one is safe and addresses the engine of negative feelings in an effective way. Nothing takes the memory away and I don't think I'd take something that kept me from learning life's lessons by erasing the experience entirely.

[princesss]

I sadly would. It hurts so much, I wouldn't want to feel it anymore.

[motive2002]

Hmmm.

 

About 4 years ago I suffered a break-up I thought I'd never get past. Had words with the ex... she pissed me off. I took all the pictures I had of her that I had burned to a CD... tossed that thing into the microwave. No joke. It lit up like a sparkler on the 4th of July.

 

Looking back now, I kinda wish I hadn't destroyed all evidence of her existence. Those pictures would be interesting to look at now.. now that I'm miles away from the pain.

 

I took the pill, so to speak.

 

Last break-up would have given anything for that pill.

 

 

Your brain tends to replay traumatic scenarios like a break-up. Not exactly sure why. To teach you something probably. It's like a bad record, that when it skips it shoots pain through an electrode right to your insides.. and it keeps skipping and skipping.

 

For a while everything is a reminder.. then not everything just most everything.. then not quite as much.. and so on. It's a process. We all get to deal with it at one time or another.

[oracle]

Are you kidding me?

 

If you took a pill everytime life handed you a disappointment to erase the experience you might as well shoot yourself in the head right now. You don't get to experience the highs without the lows.

 

In the end, it all averages out to a resonable level of just contentment. If you are lucky.

 

Life is full of suffering and pain. Learn how to deal with it, adapt and grow.

[kindest]

Sadly, I would. Not that my ex is a horrible person. In fact, he isn't and that's what made this breakup so hard for me.