If you could take a pill and forget the one who broke you heart...would you?

[Mary Oak]

I often think I wonder if I was offered a magic pill to just erase the whole relationship, would I? At some moments the pain is so bad, I would definitely swallow that pill. Even though we had incredible years and times together sometimes the pain is unbearable. Good thing such a pill is not real because I really don't know if I would do it. Guess it just depends on the day.

 

Who would take it to erase it all?

[Dblock10]

well i dont see why you wouldn't?! if there is nothing left, why be left with a pain.

[8mia8]

Never. If I loved them, then there are happy memories to cherish. As much pain as heartbreak can be, it is nothing compared to real horrid nightmares (i.e. abuse, torture, etc) that I'd rather use the pill on.

[stemac]

i would take it in a flash...

[youngnlove89]

This reminds me of Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.

 

Great movie. I recommend you see it. Basically the same moral was to forget a past love and there was a procedure you could have done to erase that part of your memory. Jim Carey is in it.

 

I don't know if I would. I don't regret those times we shared together. I don't want to forget them.

[CarrieT]

Nope.

 

I grew stronger and learned things through my heart-ache. Made me a better person and more resilient.

 

That which doesn't kill us makes us stronger!

[Floored]

My first and noble reaction was that it's made me who I am now and who I am going to be for my next relationship, that I learned to love once and I could do it again. Then I slowed down and realized I don't really care for relationships anymore; and if I learned how to love last time, who's to say I needed her to love the next one? All the good memories were hinged on the fact that we would get to make them forever. There are no good memories now, they're all tainted with what-could-have-beens.

 

Point is: I'll take two.

[ihavebeenfloated]

This is exactly Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. My favorite movie, by the way.

 

For my first breakup, I wouldn't take it. That relationship lasted as long as it could have. I learned a lot from it, and me and my ex are still really good friends.

 

The recent (6 weeks ago) breakup? Definitely. Things were great up until the point it ended. We were planning on buying a house. We'd talked about getting married and how we both wanted it with each other. It was all a forgone conclusion until, out of nowhere, she ended it. "I'm scared I'm missing out on something better." Yeah. I mean, I get the learning aspect of breakups, and how they make you who you are, but in this case? What's there to learn? What do I take from that, other than I wasted the last 3 years of my life? Nothing.

 

Sign me up for the pill for that one. 3 years wasted is 3 years wasted. I'd rather not have to deal with the pain.

[DarlingWallflower]

As of right now I think I would take that magic pill because I feel like the pain is too unbearable. (Another part of me believes that going through this pain will make me stronger in the long run). Blehhhhhhhh

[coltsfan1]

Two words, hell yes!!!

[villageman]

Tricky question. I had some lessons I needed to learn about how to be in a relationship, how to treat a partner, etc, that I needed to learn. I learned them after the break up, and while they were painful, they were lessons I needed to learn in order to be in a healthy relationship.

 

But... I'm having a super hard time letting go of my ex, to where even though it's been 6 months, I don't find any other girls even remotely interesting. She set the standard so ridiculously high that I don't know how I'm ever going to move onto someone else. So, yeah, if there was a way to keep some of the lessons but forget the person, I'd do it in a heartbeat. Life's too short to waste time longing after someone who's not coming back, but I can't seem to stop doing that at the moment.

[robaday]

I would and I wouldnt. The first one, no way it was a learning process I had to go through and Im glad I went through it. I recently reconnected with her and were talking again for the first time in three years. Its like Ive gained a new friend and Im really happy to have her back in my life.

 

The second one. I could never forget the first two years. They were exilerating, a fantastic ride. But it was on-off, and we should have left things be after the second breakup.

 

Getting back together AGAIN, was awful, and I deeply regret it. We tore chunks out of each other for a whole year, and Im surprised we both got out alive. Id like to get rid of that last year please:( pretty please:(

[RogerWallace111]

If i had a pill here right now, yes... Because the pain keeps returning every few weeks, and still makes my heartache, with no regard for my logic, and I hate it.

 

In my content/optimistic periods I would've probably said no. And in the future I'm sure. God damnit I miss that bitch.

 

[Sugarkane]

It would be very difficult not to say no. It would've saved me a lot of time and money spent on anti depressants and therapy.

[weallfalldown]

of course......with this one anyway..........give me one, now!!!!!!!!

[Hobbit]

No, not when you have had children together. As much as I hate her right now I am grateful that she brought my son into this world and never want to forget that

[lovehurts82]

For as much pain and heartache that my ex has caused me in the last couple months, I wouldn't take that pill to forget him in a million years. I STILL love him dearly in spite of what he's done to me and to us and we had years of memories. I wouldn't be the person that I am today were it not for the time I spent with him. I learned some VERY valuable lessons from the relationship as well as the BU and I believe that: "People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a God send and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on." My ex helped me with dealing and getting through my first heartbreak. He also helped me on so many other levels I can't begin to explain to someone not familiar with us and our relationship. It's what makes it so hard for me to let go. But.. alas.. if he has served his purpose and isn't meant to be in my life any longer, then I believe God has something better for me.

[all_hail_me]

I wouldn't take a pill, then I wouldn't remember the reasons why we broke up and might be attracted back to that person!

 

Does anyone know the real ending to Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind? They left out that Joel and Clementine repeatedly undergo the memory erasure, and repeatedly keep getting back together - heartache after heartache, abortion after abortion (no joke - this is seriously the original script).

 

Basically the point is, you need to learn from your mistakes and not take the easy way out because it's bound to never resolve itself. Heartache and pain are what help us to develop as people, and are an important part of life. Anyway, obviously I wouldn't take it

[MyHeartTakesOver]

No way. No regrets. If what had passed hand't passed then I'd be someone else and I like who I am.

 

Experience is the only path to wisdom.

[heartbrokeninharrow]

YES,YES, YES

 

The hell post relationship never made up for the good times. I cant get over the pain and want it to go away. If there was a pill to make it go away, I would take two!

[Arabella]

Hell no.

 

What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. He broke my heart, but I learned so much about myself after that. I never wanted to forget him and those lessons... no matter how painful it was at the time.

[Crila16]

Yes. In a heartbeat.

[KatZee]

On one hand I would... I hate that I was deceived for so long...

 

On the other hand I wouldn't. I learned way too much about myself, and him for that matter. I became so strong. I became so resilient. I surprise myself with each passing day with how fast I've moved on, how much happier I've become, how much more confidence I have, how secure I now feel in my own skin.

 

I haven't been this happy, this confident, or have looked this good in almost three years. And it's all thanks to him finally dumping me and setting me free from that hell.

[weallfalldown]

there's plenty of pills around that will take your mind off everything......

[BoroRach]

As painful as it is to me right now (I broke up with my boyfriend of 8years this month) I wouldn't.

 

My ex was a huge part of my life and is my first love. Although we will never get back together I will always love him. If I could take a pill to do anything it would be to turn him back into the man I fell in love with.