4givrnt4gtr Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 SO Im kinda sad today. My boyfriend of 4 months and I got into a bit of a tiff last night, although initially it WASN'T supposed to be. He said something I thought could be taken the wrong way so I teased him about it. Next thing I know he signed off from the chat we were talking on without saying a word. Eventually I messaged him again, saying I was very surprised he would just sign off like that, as it is not like him to do something like that. He came back in, told me he was hurt i had taken a comment meant to be affectionate and turn it into something condescending so he didnt feel like talking to me anymore and signed off. I had originally not been offended by the comment he had made, but he has a bad habit of not really thinking through some of his comments. I know he never means ill by it so I just tease him and laugh it off. However, him just up and leaving like that really upset me. WE talked some more about it, he acknowledge he may have taken it a bit too hard and he apologized for making me feel bad by leaving without saying good bye. He also acknowledge that while he left, he knew i was going to be upset. SO that is what is upsetting me now. (I didnt think about it yesterday). First, he thought i was mad about the original comment, yet he left without an explanation, or clarification...he seemed to not care i was upset. THEN he KNEW i would be even more upset by him leaving like that ON TOP of already being upset by the original comment AND YET HE CONTINUED DOING IT! He didnt come back until I sent him that message about me being surprised at his behavior. So my question is....is it worth it to bring all that up again tonight? the fact that its pissing me off that he thought i was upset originally and that I would be even more upset by his signing off and yet he still didnt care and did it anyway? He did sound regretful and said he felt horrible by having hurt me last night..so Im not sure if me bringing this up would just be beating a dead horse...still...Im still sad he could care so little about my feelings. (Although he said he did, he just felt too overwhelmed to deal with the conversation). Not sure what to do.
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