AARrock Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 i met up with a girl i met online last friday and i thought it went really well and we have been chatting all over the weekend and she hinted at meeting up again and we have something arranged for tomorrow but the last couple of days shes stopped replying to me and have barely spoken and as far as i know were still meeting but im just worried shes lost interest ive seen her online and other things sometimes i do worry alot about things anyway so maybe im just worrying about nothing just want to hear some other views
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 Maybe you're coming off a bit clingy/desperate or she's still weighing her interest level. Regardless of the reason just lay off and wait till you see her again, give her some time to miss you If she's not already friendzoned you to a degree. You might have a chance to redeem yourself or establish a stronger connection.
Author AARrock Posted August 22, 2012 Author Posted August 22, 2012 yeah that what im worried about i haven't messaged her any more since she didn't reply i just worry if i don't talk to her that will cause her too lose interest too just hope she still comes tomorrow
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 You have to have more confidence and value within yourself to feel that you need to chase her...if you do it's going to look obvious and she doesn't want a guy who just chases her around and makes himself easily available. When you're with a woman and you have all these "feelings" of chemistry and what not, you need to leave it on the table then, don't go home holding on this stuff in and then sending it over a text or phone calls. You can't hit a home run after the game is over (date). Otherwise you just lay-off, "worrying" about losing her will just make you do exactly that...loser her, don't panic, just distract yourself and take a deep breathe and put your mind and focus on something else, you don't know this girl very well regardless. Just go with the flow, If she comes out she comes out then forget about everything and just be on the date and don't try too hard, just be yourself and get to know her and relax. If she cancels or it doesn't work out then just back off...don't get mad or hurt/upset and express that to her, just take it for a week or so and just continue on...try to learn from your mistakes and don't dwell or you just hurt yourself more than you benefit.
Author AARrock Posted August 22, 2012 Author Posted August 22, 2012 cheers for your advice she has just text me so maybe your right that she hasnt decided yet but i will take your advice tomorrow also would you pay for her 2 dates running or do you think that comes off the wrong way too?
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 I usually just go with the flow when it comes to paying to a degree so I don't really think about it...however only being the second date I'd definitely recommend you pay...especially If you are very interested in her. If she offers to pay just tell her she can get the next one...If it's a date that is going to involve different activities or what not then you can let her pick up some of the slack with the small things but I wouldn't recommend coming off cheap.
Author AARrock Posted August 22, 2012 Author Posted August 22, 2012 ok thanks for you advice will see what happens tomorrow fingers crossed:) 1
Author AARrock Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 So yeah the second date went really well and had a good laugh and at the end of the evening she said if she could have a cheeky kiss we also discussed meeting again now it's gone back to how it was where we're exchange a few texts then she just won't reply to one also she doesn't really text me first thing is I just can't tell if it's a bad sign or not maybe she's not a big texter but I don't want to over text her but I don't want to not talk to her and if I don't text her one day will she think I'm not interesting I'm really probably overthinking this
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