40 days NC and i get a text. Read and reply or delete and say goodbye

[k100danny]

So last month after a couple of weeks of nc and my ex deleting me from facebook (I think in response to a previous ex posting on my facebook wall) I noticed from her profile pic she seemed to have moved on already. I know you can't always judge a book by its cover but i sent her a message saying basically

 

I wish you all the best and although you seemed to have moved on quick which hurt I do genuinely wish you well and hope you find whatever will make you truly happy. I don't blame you for anything and I can't hold a grudge against you leaving to find happiness as everyone deserves this. I am going to block you from facebook but not to be childish it is just so i can move on and let go, I don't want you to feel guilty for anything I think we both tried hard so thank you for that. I just want you to do one thing for me, please send my watch back it is very special to me as you know and it's not that i don't think you will keep it safe or that you would ever dream of keeping it but it's time for me to move on and I don't want it turning up in a month and bringing back memories I hope you understand and can do this for me. I hope your travelling goes well and it is all that you hoped it would be and more and one day you find somewhere to settle and call home with someone who is everything you need. I'm sure at some point we will bump into each other maybe when you get back or maybe in years to come when we are both married with kids.

 

Take care of yourself x

 

I blocked her and heard nothing, her phone was cut off just previous to this and i never mentioned that i knew this, I think she changed to a foreign mobile while she is away obviously cheaper. But today almost 6 weeks on I get a text from a foreign mobile number and because i have other texts aswell it doesnt open right away but i see the first line

 

Hi Danny it's ****** I just want you to know I still have your watch safe.

 

I didnt open it and I don't think i want to. I don't knwo if she is just being nice saying sorry i forgot to send it or something and I am not taking it any other way really i just feel I didn't need to hear from her right now. Why text to tell me you still have my watch? I ****ing know you have it because I don't. why not just send it like I asked and delete my number? you've obviously got a new phone but for some reason you've either saved my number or contacted a friend for it to text me.

 

Shall i delete it and just not reply until i feel ready, If i do reply I don't want her to text me back thats for sure. or do I have to read it and reply? I suppose if it's important and i dont read it i can always lie and say i did.

 

why did this after ojust over two months of breaking up still make me feel like i was going to have a panic attack?

[Crila16]

I would reply back with.

 

"Great. Thanks for keeping it safe for me. Would you mind sending it to me? The watch means a lot to me and I would really appreciate it. Thanks again and I hope all is well. Take care."

 

That's the perfect, perfect ....nicest way to say "FU...send my watch back." She's totally playing games. She could have just sent it or dropped it off. Don't even acknowledge to her that you noticed she has a new phone number.

[Crila16]

Oh...and she will most likely txt you back. She's missing you from what it sounds like. Trust me...take it from a girl who has broken up with a few guys. When they wanted something back and I couldn't stand them...I wanted them out of my life ASAP. She held onto the watch, because even though she let you go...she wasn't fully ready to let you go, because she knew she might be making a mistake or live to regret it.

 

Text her.

[BooBoo1982]

Why not see what she has to say?

[aanderson088]

Be careful. If the wound is still fresh to you. I assume it is because of the panic attack, then you might be ready to make some rash decisions. If you feel like you want to get back together again, then talk to her but really stay away from any discussion surrounding that. If she wants it, she'll ask you.

 

Just be careful.

[weallfalldown]

keep the watch, someone else has bought me a really cool one..... happy days

[k100danny]

I still havent looked at the whole message i just saw the first line and really was knocked back by it. so i dont know what she actually wants it anything. I am at the stage now where i do see some of the horrific things and how she treat me in the relationship but i still dont wish bad on her.

 

I feel like she didn't feel it was important enough to send back and i feel after all that went on she owed me that much, i hadnt been horrible or blamed her for anything or tried to make her feel guilty i just wanted her to be happy thats all.And the fact i had mentioned that i wanted it back so i could move on and not get a surprise a month down the line i thought would make her send it.

 

I doubt it is that she misses me, maybe wants some attention or something. I would love to say keep the watch but it was left to me when someone passed away and is also worth a lot of money but i had got to the point where i thought well if it comes back it comes back and if it doesnt then fine. I just don't feel like this was the right time to hear from her, im not indifferent yet and i dont think i want to get into a conversation with her.

[Charlie Harper]

Unless the watch was given to you by Captain Koons, don't answer let it go...

 

(yep google captain Koons)

[k100danny]

I decided not to read the message Bit i havent deleted it. She may think I am being childish not replying but i will explain myself when I am ready to do so. I am thinking the only thing she can have put in the message is have you taken my stuff back to my friends or something, why else would she contact me?

 

I haven't dropped her stuff off yet and it's just basically that I haven't got round to it and I know she is still away travelling for another few months at least so i know it is stuff she doesnt need right now. So I think the best thing I can do is pack up he stuff asap and drop it round to her friends house who she used to share a house with, I had contacted her a while ago (her friend) and she said that would be no problem to take the stuff there and she can pick it up when she comes back from travelling. Her parents don't live in this city so it would mean sending two courier parcels and I dont really want to do that or contact her parents for the address.

 

After this I can safely say there is nothing that she needs from me or can ask me for and should i get another message in the future I can just delete it without reading it. One day I will check in and say hello maybe, say I hope she is doing well ect but I don't feel at that point yet.

 

sorry just ranting again