lingardx Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 probably didn't post this in the right topic, but how can i overcome getting jealous of my boyfriends "friends" i put friends in those " because i don't really see them as a friend, he's worked with them for a few months and never sees them out of work. he's got 2 girl mates who he's known for 4+ years and i'm happy with that but he's put his facebook friends to private so i can't see who he is becoming friends with but when a big amount of people like his status i notice there is girls there who he's never mentioned to me and so i find myself looking at their page and noticing they are single. and it really bugs me. now i'm not insecure, i'm not ugly but i'm not drop dead stunning. and before anyone says "you have guy friends" i have one guy friend who is gay. is this why it bugs me so much? because i don't have lots of male friends too? anyone else ever feel like this? i know it's stupid but i can't help but think if he was completely happy with me then why would he friend other girls?
ThatJustHappened Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 If he's your boyfriend, why can't you see his facebook page? A lot of women wrestle with this..believe me, you are not alone. But him being friends with other women doesn't mean that you're not fulfilling him as a girlfriend. Do you feel the same way about his male friends? Do you feel like they are filling a hold that you're not capable of filling? Probably not, right? Honestly, just relax. Unless there is something specifically suspicious (geez..say that 3 times fast!), going on, your fears are probably unfounded. It takes time, but eventually you get used to him having female friends..especially if you spend time around them too. Does he ever invite you when he hangs out with them? Perhaps he should..might help.
Author lingardx Posted August 22, 2012 Author Posted August 22, 2012 If he's your boyfriend, why can't you see his facebook page? A lot of women wrestle with this..believe me, you are not alone. But him being friends with other women doesn't mean that you're not fulfilling him as a girlfriend. Do you feel the same way about his male friends? Do you feel like they are filling a hold that you're not capable of filling? Probably not, right? Honestly, just relax. Unless there is something specifically suspicious (geez..say that 3 times fast!), going on, your fears are probably unfounded. It takes time, but eventually you get used to him having female friends..especially if you spend time around them too. Does he ever invite you when he hangs out with them? Perhaps he should..might help. well i can see his page but his friend list is completely hidden. no, he has never met up with any of them outside of work which is why i'm wondering why he's even friends with them! haha, i don't start talking to random male people in my work. i've already met one of his friends who he's known for a while but they were sending quite flirty texts so i ended up having a go at her haha, so i don't think he'd be in any hurry to do that again
ThatJustHappened Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 So he's just Facebook friends with them and he chats with them at work? Ok yeah, you're being kind of crazy and possessive. I talk to men at my job..in fact, my boss is a man..it doesn't mean I'm interested in them. That's insane! You can't prevent him from talking to other women. Chill..he's not doing anything wrong. It'll be fine.
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