RomineZ Posted July 16, 2004 Posted July 16, 2004 hello im new to this forum so i got to lay down some background first. my girlfriend and what i thought to be the love of my life broke up with me about 6 weeks ago now. we were together for over 3 years and i thought it was going to last forever. she was 17 and i was 20 when we met. she gave up her virginity to me. i swore i would never leave her and i didnt. now of course we had problems along the way but everything has always worked itself out. there was always talk of marriage and kids eventually. well 6 weeks ago we went to a party and she was short with me all night. i figured it was cause she was around her friends. well i left to take a friend home and she got a ride home from a friend. i smarted off to her when she finally got back and we ended up in a really bad fight. i said somethings i shouldnt and let myself get way out of control. well the next day we hung out and i thought it would be ok.the day after that she told me she just wanted to be friends. of course i begged and pleaded to not do this. then she starts dating a guy from her work. ileft her alone knowing that would be best for me. i stopped contact with her although im still not used to it.now ive seen her here and there at friends houses but i didnt initiate contact. well i was doing good or so i thought about trying to get past this b/c thats what she wants. i figured yea ok if u love something let it go and if it comes back its yours. last week she celebrated her 21st b-day at a bar and invited me through a friend. i didnt go b/c i didnt want to see her with this new guy for fear it bring too many emotions back. well later on im at a friends house hanging out and she calls this friend and ask to talk to me. she asks if i hate her. why does she care she got what she wanted. i told her that no i dont hate her but i would rather her call me when she was sober to talk about it. she said maybe she would. she hasnt yet. when she got ready to get off the phone i think she almost said i love you but she caught herself . i dont know if that was b/c she forgot we werent together or what. this talk brought all those feelings back. as far as i know and hear this new guy is great and she is happy so why is worried if i hate her. does she just feel guilty? or is she starting to question if she did the right thing? i will always love this girl and i want her back but i dont see it happening while she has someone to keep her mind off of me? i dont know im so confused again b/c of her phone call.
aFighter Posted July 16, 2004 Posted July 16, 2004 First off, if breaking up was easy this forum wouldn't even excist. What you're feeling is perfectly normal. You said she was snappy at you all night & then a row ensued? I know this symptom, it's the "I want to end it but I don't want to look like a b*tch so I'll just get him to start a row and I can drop him and say it's his fault". Times and people do change my friend, just let her go. The fact that she's with someone else right now is evidence anough that she's not comming back. Put her out of your life and move on.
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