Bad_Feeling Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 After 100 plus days, I broke no contact with my ex gf and sent a text. Nothing in depth, just wondering how she is doing. It has been over 2 hours and no response as of yet. Any advice would be welcomed. Thanks.
youngnlove89 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 After 100 plus days, I broke no contact with my ex gf and sent a text. Nothing in depth, just wondering how she is doing. It has been over 2 hours and no response as of yet. Any advice would be welcomed. Thanks. You just have to wait it out. Who broke up with who?
Author Bad_Feeling Posted August 22, 2012 Author Posted August 22, 2012 She broke it off, in early May. It was a clean break, no crying or begging.
youngnlove89 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 She broke it off, in early May. It was a clean break, no crying or begging. I see. She might not respond. She left you for a reason and if she hasn't realized what she lost, she never will. Sometimes people just don't feel that something that you felt. People who break up with people break up for a reason. And it may be nothing you did, but just the mere fact that the passion isn't there for them as it was for you. The best thing to do is to let this go. If she responds don't take it as she wants you back. She might just be nice and friendly. Don't stretch out the meaning any more than it is. If you still love her, best thing to do is NC. This is for yourself, not to win her back. You need to realize that she isn't it for you. NC is for your benefit only. Good luck.
Author Bad_Feeling Posted August 22, 2012 Author Posted August 22, 2012 I thought that may be the case, however she is a very polite person and it would not be like her to not respond, even if it was to say please stop contacting me.
youngnlove89 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 I thought that may be the case, however she is a very polite person and it would not be like her to not respond, even if it was to say please stop contacting me. I'm sorry. It's tough. Trust me, I know. But you will be okay. At least you tried and now you don't have to wonder "what-if"
Author Bad_Feeling Posted August 22, 2012 Author Posted August 22, 2012 Will she even think about responding?
youngnlove89 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 Will she even think about responding? She got the text. She is probably wondering how to respond to it or whether to ignore it. But she broke up with you and if she really wanted you back, she knows the ball is in her court. When a girl wants a guy she will do anything to get him back. The truth is she might not respond. It's a cold reality but you have to accept it. don't keep texting her either if she never responds. Know that she will text you when she is ready. And she might not ever be.
Author Bad_Feeling Posted August 22, 2012 Author Posted August 22, 2012 How can people be so very cold, I should have stuck with NC, but sending a text, I thought was the right thing to do.
youngnlove89 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 How can people be so very cold, I should have stuck with NC, but sending a text, I thought was the right thing to do. I don't think her intentions are to be cold. Have you ever had someone want you, but you didn't feel the same? It's just part of life. We all go through it. Shoulda coulda woulda...what is done, is done. I think you would've wondered if you hadn't sent the text. Now you have your answer, she isn't interested. Of course it hurts, but now this is your closure. This is what you needed to move forward. Put it behind you now.
Regrets58 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 She may be being cruel to be kind in a fashion. Sometimes dumpers think keeping in contact is a consolation prize for the dumpee.They also do it for many other reasons incl to ease their guilt etc. I had this when my ex dumped me.Looking back a dignified silence would have been preferable. The ultimate dumper will explain honestly why they are ending it. Tell you there is no going back and cease contact. I got the honest explanation but could have done without her contacting me afterwards. You have tried and as youngnlove says,it is closure for you.
TaraMaiden Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 After 100 plus days, I broke no contact with my ex gf and sent a text. Nothing in depth, just wondering how she is doing. It has been over 2 hours and no response as of yet. Any advice would be welcomed. Thanks. Get the text back. You should never have broken no contact. You weren't just 'wondering how she is doing'. You don't care how she's "doing". what you care about is "please contact me - show me you still care for me - here, here's a hook...." You are sooo not over her. You only contact an ex when you discover they're with someone else, expecting a baby and have bought a puppy together, and all you want to say is - "Congratulations, i'm so pleased for you!" Benign indifference is what you're working towards. Anything else, juts rips out the stitches.... (I know you can't get the text back. but it's as dumb a suggestion as you contacting her, was.) 1
Frank13 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 After 100 plus days, I broke no contact with my ex gf and sent a text. Nothing in depth, just wondering how she is doing. It has been over 2 hours and no response as of yet. Any advice would be welcomed. Thanks. What advice can we give you now? You shouldn't have done it.
Frank13 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 How can people be so very cold, I should have stuck with NC, but sending a text, I thought was the right thing to do. You should have asked for advice before sending it. We would have told you not to. 1
Lisa_Lisa Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 I understand the concept of NC. I've been talking to a friend of mine who urges me to write an email to my ex and she's getting in a little. She says, "You've already lost what you didn't want to lose." But my fears of rejection hold me back. I would like to tell him let's just put the past behind us and be friends again (we were friends before we started a romance). But what if he doesn't answer? What if he says he doesn't want to be my friend? What if he says 'sure, let's be friends' and I never hear from him. What if I say I miss him and he says, 'thanks.' I've got all these possible scenarios in my head. I still love him and wish we would get back together and that's why it's so hurtful to me what his answer or no answer might be if I do contact him. Sorry for going off on a tangent, but you sent the text to her. It's not the end of the world. But contacting her is just inviting more hurt into your life because our fantasies are never our reality. Maybe she'll write back, maybe she won't. But don't put your hopes on a response. Don't count down the hours or days. It does you no good. Go NC again.
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