amythan Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Hi, I do not know what to do, rationally I think i should break up with him but the idea of doing it makes me feel so sad and stressed that i always change my mind. We are great together and i haven't been that happy in a relationship in a long time but he plans to leave in two months. Miles and miles away. An just because he misses his country not because he should. And I feel abandoned, as if i have any say in the decision. A long distance relationship is impossible and i do not want to invest more feelings and time in someone who has no second thoughts in leaving me behind. I feel if he was really in love with me he would not leave me. If he has made his mind we are done but i need to know. I go through all emotions, anxiety, anger, sadness ... and he knows that. But he keeps saying he does not want to think about the future. Am i wrong ? Thanks for reading.
pteromom Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 I don't think it matters. You can stick it out the last two months, or cut him loose now. Either way, the ending is the same. So it just comes down to what is most important to you - not having to deal with a "break up", or standing up for yourself since he's leaving anyway.
InJest Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 You should break up immediately, so that he has a chance to see what life is like without you BEFORE he moves. I seriously doubt he would move back, even if he realized it was the biggest mistake of his life. Breaking up now, give him time to realize he misses you, and stay.
soccerrprp Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 The sooner the better you are so you can start healing...
Author amythan Posted August 22, 2012 Author Posted August 22, 2012 @InJest: I was talking today with two friends of mine (one guy and one girl) and both have your opinion ... They said that he should realize that i am not just complaining but determined to cut my losses and eventually he would have room to make a decision knowing what he loses. And if he decides to leave i would save two months of anxiety which could be used in my own benefit. They also said that I changed and i looked sad, quiet and tired. Great. I guess i need to get out before this situation destroy my nerves.
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