Leanni Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 and a half years, we are both 20 and we are each others first relationships. About a year ago he kissed a girl in a club, we broke up, but got back together the next day, but his mum didnt approve ( his mum has stress and mental issues) so she kicked him out. He came to stay with me and my parents, but his mum kept saying she couldnt cope on her own and she has being crying since he left and all sorts, she does this everytime she kicks him out, so after all her crying and calling he went back home, he broke up with me the next day, when we spoke about it he said his moter had said he can not be with me it is disgraceful. So we have been hiding our relationship from his mum ever since, and its just getting worse with the stupidness of it all, i barely ever see him, he never stays over anymore incase his mum finds out he is at mine. And everything is beyond a joke.... And i cant continue living this lie of a relationship, but i cant bring myself to leave him, what the hell can i do??
Fallenandbroken Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 I suggest you talk to him and tell him how you feel and explain that things have to change if your going to survive this.
nessaaa Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Start dating other guys, eventually you'll start developing feelings for one of them and the feelings for your bf will fade away, you wont even miss him because your distracted with other guys.
rocketman122 Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 and a half years, we are both 20 and we are each others first relationships. About a year ago he kissed a girl in a club, we broke up, but got back together the next day, but his mum didnt approve ( his mum has stress and mental issues) so she kicked him out. He came to stay with me and my parents, but his mum kept saying she couldnt cope on her own and she has being crying since he left and all sorts, she does this everytime she kicks him out, so after all her crying and calling he went back home, he broke up with me the next day, when we spoke about it he said his moter had said he can not be with me it is disgraceful. So we have been hiding our relationship from his mum ever since, and its just getting worse with the stupidness of it all, i barely ever see him, he never stays over anymore incase his mum finds out he is at mine. And everything is beyond a joke.... And i cant continue living this lie of a relationship, but i cant bring myself to leave him, what the hell can i do?? if you love him, try to work it out. its easy to walk away but harder to confront and work things out.
kaylan Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Start dating other guys, eventually you'll start developing feelings for one of them and the feelings for your bf will fade away, you wont even miss him because your distracted with other guys. Dont listen to this stupid advice OP. Feelings just dont fade away easy if its feelings for someone you truly love and care about. OP, try and work things out with your bf first...thats if you love him and want to be with him. You guys are young, so this kinda stress can be a lot to deal with. Be open and honest with him about what you want. Then if things dont get better with a little bit of time, then you may have to pull the plug for the sake of your own happiness.
onyxangyll Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 it doesn't sound like he's even trying to stick up for u in front of his mom and cares way more about her opinion than he does urs. u should find someone who can think for himself, because it's probably not going to get any better if u stay with him. try dating other guys.. oh and tell him that u want to take a break from ur relationship.. that will probably get him thinking, and if he really loves u, then he'll start showing it by setting his mom straight. keeping ur relationship a secret is pointless, because she's bound to find out sooner or later.. what if things work out and u were to get married someday?
nessaaa Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 And if he truely loved and cared about her, he wouldnt let his mom get in between them. He made his choice, now it's time for her to move on.
kaylan Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 ^They are young kids. I cant fault the boy for being mindful of his mother. Growing takes time. Thats why I think she should talk to him first and voice her concerns. Bailing before talking things out doesnt fix anything, and it teaches people to use that cowardly behavior whenever they date in the future. You miss out on good things when your first inclination is to bail instead of fixing something.
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