PoppyLove89 Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 (edited) Okay so I need to vent this!!! My ex keeps going on Twitter talking about how his new girlfriend is the 'best thing' that ever happened to him and that he 'can't get over' how much he loves her. This is the part that winds me up, he used to say all that bull**** to me (albeit in person and NOT on the internet because we always felt it was tacky to do so...why is he shouting his love for her off the rooftops?) and yet look where it got me?! He told me I was the 'love of his life', he was 'lucky to have me', he'll 'never do better' etc...clearly his love for me was very fleeting seeing as following our break-up (after a year and a bit together) he wasted little to no time (3 weeks) in filling my side of the bed. And no, we weren't constantly arguing, we were truly best friends. In fact, he was all excited talking about moving in together a mere 3 days before the split. Following the split (which happened over an escalated argument) he soon got really nasty...and I eventually found out why: he was seeing this new bird. It just all seems very unfair. Why do people who treat their ex partners like sh*t and that go out of their way to hurt them more than they're already hurting, end up happily ever after while we're all left to pick up the shattered pieces of our hearts and future plans? So how the f*** can you go from loving one person, to being head over heels for the next with no time to spare? It doesn't bother me that he's with someone new (okay, it does a little because I don't understand how any of it actually happened) but it does bother me that it happened so quickly - the split hadn't even fully registered with me yet - and yet he'd already replaced me with someone that looks nothing like me or the ex before me (we look quite similar so I guess we're his 'type') and she's only 18! (He's 24) Okay, that shouldn't be an issue but seeing as he used to call my ex boyfriend a 'peado' since he was 22 and I was 17 and a half when we started our 3 year relationship - it just pisses me off that he's turned out to be a complete hypocrit. He's emotionally stunted (shuts off as soon as things get 'too real' or 'too serious' because he's scared of getting hurt) so can men like him ever truly love?! Maybe this new girl is the one for him but it really irritates me that he's regurgitating his words used for me, to her! It makes me angry realising everything we had was fake. That I merely played a role that was easily recast. That any girl could fill the space left by me. I didn't make an impact. I wasn't of any significance in his life. Yet he was everything in mine. I know what you're gonna say, I'm not over him yet. And you're right, I'm not. I can deal with it, I'm healing day by day but it kills me that I was a 'nothing'...a bit of skirt to fill the space until someone better came along. His new girl is friends with the girl friends of his friends (who are all way younger than him at 18-20) so I guess they're well suited. I guess Tina Turner was right; 'What's love but a second hand emotion', passed down from one lover to the next. GAAAAH!!! Rant over. Sorry Edited August 21, 2012 by PoppyLove89
oracle Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Read my thread at the top of the section.. Don't worry... the 3 rules are at play here.. on both sides 1
I'm nuts Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 We all do silly things when we are immature. Now comes the good news, we grow out of it:laugh: 1
Author PoppyLove89 Posted August 21, 2012 Author Posted August 21, 2012 Hey guys! Thanks for the replies. Oracle, I have read your thread and I agree with it 100%!!! I'm Nuts, loving the name btw, I'm guessing (and hoping) you mean he was being immature? I'm just the type of person that thinks exes deserve to be treated with respect and civility to honour what you two had together - unless he/she cheated on you or worse of course. I wish my ex before him, whom I was with for 3 and a half years, nothing but happiness and love because he deserves it - so I guess I just can't seem to wrap my head around people being as cold and mean as my most recent ex haha! Oh and just one more part of the rant in general, which I couldn't add before as it wouldn't let me: I don't want him back, he makes me angry whenever I hear his name. I'm angry that I let him hurt me so much. Angry that the one person who said he'd never hurt me, never let me down and that I wasn't a 'stop gap' until someone better came along (and yes those were his words) could do this to me. I'm angry that I let myself believe him when I had my guard well and truly up at the start - angry I let him knock my wall down. Angry that I was left heartbroken and he seems to never have been happier. I'm angry I ever met him. I hate myself for falling for him and his lies; the 'I love yous' and 'I miss yous' weren't true.
I'm nuts Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Hey guys! Thanks for the replies. Oracle, I have read your thread and I agree with it 100%!!! I'm Nuts, loving the name btw, I'm guessing (and hoping) you mean he was being immature? All the girls say that, or something similar, my English is not so hot these days:p Us boys are all immature, we all do these silly things for a long time, then one day as if by a miracle we grow out and we start to become quite nice. Jeez, I think of the daft attention grabbing things I used to do
Author PoppyLove89 Posted August 21, 2012 Author Posted August 21, 2012 I mean, I've heard about boys being about 4 years younger mentally than their same-aged female counterparts but this is ridiculous! He's clinging onto his late-teens/early twenties carefree lifestyle for dear life. This could be due to the fact that he's in the army and due to deploy to Afghan in march but that would make me want someone reliable and supportive around me - not his fickle, image obsessed, shallow friends whom he doesn't even confide in for fear of being judged. Oh well, I've left him to it. Maybe it'll turn out the best thing that's ever happened to him or maybe he'll learn from his mistakes. I know I have! haha
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