miamai Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 this guy i like told me about some of his past sexual experiences that, well, crushed me. he has had a regular threesome with the same two girls once a year for a couple years. apparently that is over now though. its not the 'act' i have issues with, its just that i haven't slept with him yet and i have been fantasizing about about 'rocking his world'. but after learning about this, i am like, how the hell i am going top that? i feel SO inadequate. i can't get some of the images out of my head and it stings. it was really hot. i am very open, kinky, and a free spirit when it comes to sex but i feel like nothing i ever do will compare.
WhatYouWantToHear Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Up the ante--give him his first 4-some. If the other chicks bring in 2 more chicks, you give him a 6-some, they give him a 7-some, you bring in a whole soccer team of chicks. If the cold war taught us anything, its not to be left behind in an arms (or in this case, vagina) race.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Up the ante--give him his first 4-some. If the other chicks bring in 2 more chicks, you give him a 6-some, they give him a 7-some, you bring in a whole soccer team of chicks. If the cold war taught us anything, its not to be left behind in an arms (or in this case, vagina) race. That reads like a shampoo commercial on TV !! 1
pteromom Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Even if it was hot -so what? You are open, kinky, and a free spirit, so show him that and I bet he'll be thrilled. It's not a competition. Every single sexual experience is different.
Author miamai Posted August 22, 2012 Author Posted August 22, 2012 WhatYouWantToHear - that was funny as hell. thanks for making me laugh. everytime someone comes you have to yell out - GOOOOOOAAAAAAALLLLLLLLL!!!!!! pteromom - you're right and i'm sure i will get over it.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 Did you ask him what his experiences were or he volunteered? Either way this is something that is common sense to avoid. If you asked then you'll have to take your own internal lumps for going there. If he brought it up, that to me would be reason to have reservations about him--not for what he did but for his candor. If you are a romantic interest he should be treating you differently than say, a new wing man he plans on cruising the bars with. All that aside however, people generally settle down into couples and just because someone has had the experience of threesomes does not mean they view being a couple as a lesser thing. It is a way way greater thing if there's real connection and love. Threesome rarely implies any such seriousness or quality--it's just quantity.
Author miamai Posted August 23, 2012 Author Posted August 23, 2012 Did you ask him what his experiences were or he volunteered? Either way this is something that is common sense to avoid. If you asked then you'll have to take your own internal lumps for going there. If he brought it up, that to me would be reason to have reservations about him--not for what he did but for his candor. If you are a romantic interest he should be treating you differently than say, a new wing man he plans on cruising the bars with. All that aside however, people generally settle down into couples and just because someone has had the experience of threesomes does not mean they view being a couple as a lesser thing. It is a way way greater thing if there's real connection and love. Threesome rarely implies any such seriousness or quality--it's just quantity. he offered, i did not ask. maybe he mentioned it because he knows i would like to have sex with a girl sometime and thought it would turn me on? maybe he was bragging? not sure. would be interesting in knowing from other guys WHY you would bring up your past when it was unsolicited.
Maeva Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 he offered, i did not ask. maybe he mentioned it because he knows i would like to have sex with a girl sometime and thought it would turn me on? maybe he was bragging? not sure. would be interesting in knowing from other guys WHY you would bring up your past when it was unsolicited. Since you told him you'd like to have sex with a woman, maybe he saw it as an opportunity to try it with you? I see you didn't ask for it, but you gave him some information about your sexual preferences so I can understand why he would bring it up; it sort of makes sense.
irin Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 personally i wouldnt sleep with that kind of guy, but if your open to those things then i guess you'll be fine.
GravityMan Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 The OP's post is one reason why I'm not a fan of disclosing past sexual experiences in detail to a woman I'm currently dating. Especially early on in the relationship.
samsungxoxo Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 I'm surprised you didn't dump him. I would have turned the other way and be gone in seconds. 1
veggirl Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 I would have been sooo turned off by him offering up that information. Did you ask him why he did that? Him bragging about that s.hit, unsolicited no less, would kill any crush I had on the guy. 1
shiftman Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 I'm surprised you didn't dump him. I would have turned the other way and be gone in seconds. I have to ask why such a disclosure would make you be gone in seconds? At this point, we do not know that he was "bragging". He may have only been honest in disclosing his past experiences. I can see not be interested and politely declining to continue the relationship, but running away - like the guy had the plague - seems a bit extreme to me.
Author miamai Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 i was initially turned off but i not ready to walk away by any means. he did say he brought it up because he thought i'd like it and actually brought it up again after i told him i didn't want to hear anymore. granted he didn't tell further details he just mentioned a part he had already told me. i still felt the same way about it. i didn't say anything to him. i just steered the conversation away from it. if he does do it again i will just let him know that when i tell him what i 'like' i don't use past sexual experiences to do so and would appreciate the same. i'm actaully disappointed in myself for even letting it bother me in the first place! never had this happen before. i wonder how he might feel if i told him some of the kinky stuff i have done with other guys? that would just be mean though.
mario_C Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Then be mean like he was mean to you. And BTW, there's no evidence he really did that act - it's a huge male fantasy (guilty) and lots of guys brag about such things. Why he would be so stupid to brag to a girl he's pursuing a relationship with is one of life's sublime mysteries...
mario_C Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Up the ante--give him his first 4-some. If the other chicks bring in 2 more chicks, you give him a 6-some, they give him a 7-some, you bring in a whole soccer team of chicks. If the cold war taught us anything, its not to be left behind in an arms (or in this case, vagina) race.Sounds like one of those hentai stories...
ascendotum Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 I would have been sooo turned off by him offering up that information. Did you ask him why he did that? Him bragging about that s.hit, unsolicited no less, would kill any crush I had on the guy. Its possible this guy is just open about his experiences and is happy to share some of his favorite memories with his new girl...or it could be a play along the lines of WhatYouWantToHear's post, which reading a later post from the OP sounded that was what he intended. Amusing post but at the same time what WYWTH said works out exactly like that for some guys, with the girl worrying about dissappointing her hot new man, and not measuring up to past lovers, so she does the same things. You will see it as tacky others as immature bragging and others as a challange/incitment. I know a few guys who do this.
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