youaretheone Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 I have been with my ex for 1.5 years, with last 6 months being LDR. I thought everything was great until I heard the "You deserve better." break-up line today. I did everything I can to endure long distance, I paid her to visit me here, I created blogs for us to post in, I arranged daily Skype sessions and listened to everything about her day so that we are still connected, I even sent her a birthday present parcel from another continent. I never once looked at other girls in a romantic way and I had many chances to do so. I didn't even went out with any alone, thinking it would disrespect her. First she started saying she is starting to forget about my touches. Then she distanced herself a little from me. When I asked her if that's true, she always said she is still the same but she is missing my touches. Then, a few weeks ago, she meets a guy at work and she starts hanging out with him after work. When I learn that she goes to a cinema with him late night and hangs out till midnight, I ask her what it means. We have a big argument about it. First, she defends herself saying that I cannot restrict her friendships. I explain to her it's a matter of respect and ask her how she would feel if I hang out with a girl I just met and she doesn't know. It's totally ok if she hangs out with an old guy friend but with a guy she just met and I don't know about? Isn't that fishy? I am about to break-up when she realizes she made a mistake and apologizes. After that, everything starts going downwards. I forgive her and nothing changes with my affection but she keeps distancing herself. Today, I get the bad news. She says "I cannot resist seeing you sad like the time we had the argument about this guy at work. I love you and I care about you very much and I think you deserve better than me. I will never make you happy.". When I try to convince her by saying that there is only 2 weeks left before our reunion and I accept her as she is and so on, she admits she has feelings for this guy at work, which proves that my gut wasn't wrong. Apparently, she has decided on this talk a long time ago and today was the final. She was playing the lovely girlfriend to me since she met this guy at work. We have been making plans to move in together a month before and now she tells me this. We really had an amazing relationship (that's what I believed in) and now I feel totally broken by the things she told me. She even said "I don't see our dreams coming true.". I thought I am going to explode when she finally told me that the other guy she likes would love to meet me and say sorry that he showed affection to a taken girl. At that moment, She wasn't the girl I fell in love with. The final bomb: Today is my birthday. It's her way of celebrating my birthday. Wow. Long to be remembered. I had to rant, please feel free to add your comments. I feel very heavy right now.
weallfalldown Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 your in a car.... Your driving forward.... Your never looking back.... driving into the light.... follow the light...... the pain will heal.............
Author youaretheone Posted August 21, 2012 Author Posted August 21, 2012 Oh and all this time she kept saying I am the best guy she met and nothing will change that. I am her angel, she says. And I say: Yeah, you always dump your angels for another guy.
MyHeartTakesOver Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 I remember my great aunt once saying to me, years ago, "never get involved with someone who has a lower character than you. They'll always leave because they can't handle knowing it". Honestly, you are capable of feeling so much more than she is. That means that you are on a higher emotional intelligence level. That means that you were with someone who's beneath you. Give yourself space and time. You're lucky in that you are abroad from home and can use that to reassert your own identity much more easily than you could if you were in close quarters.
weallfalldown Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 no one is beneath anyone.......we are equals.....sometimes we're just on different levels....
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