jk35058 Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 (edited) I need some advise as to improving my online dating profile. Any improvements? <Link deleted per member request> Edited August 22, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
The Way I Am Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 (edited) Please don't take offense to my advice. I'm just trying to give you honest suggestions. Get rid of the 3rd pic with your hand over your head. It looks like you're in bed, and that's a little too intimate up-front. Remove the second paragraph about having a hard time and "tired of being alone". It comes off depressing. I'm a little iffy on your 6'5", too short joke. I'm not sure it plays well. Some people might be confused and wonder if it's a typo and you actually meant 5'6". Think of something more original for the first date. It should ideally be something to show off your interests without being too out-there. Dinner and movies = yawn. At the very least, list some of the possibilities instead of just saying "the possibilities are endless". Add a little bit about what you look for in a woman. Also, your last paragraph is kind of a jumble. The grammar and formatting has room for improvement, but I'm not sure if other people care much about that. Edited August 21, 2012 by The Way I Am
Emilia Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 You are not giving any kind of indication of what sort of woman you are looking for, it looks as if you are relying on your photos to do the talking entirely hoping that lots will contact you based on those. To be brutally honest the best thing you can do is to purchase a gym membership and go hardcore with weight lifting and running for 6 months. 'Average' body build does not cover it. You need to get into shape.
rocketman122 Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 immediate thing that came to my mind was diet/gym. I thought it was a joke when I clicked on it. I was waiting for your next post saying..haha got you..this is my real profile. also in your profile you sound very desperate. also those who show chest and face pics only is something I dont appreciate. I think the person has something to hide. especially looking up at the camera to flatten your chin/skin. you are not average build in body and if I came to a date and saw this fat guy coming I would be pissed. thats deceiving and you cant build a relationship where youre lying straight from the beginning. in your 2nd left picture you look 45.
tori0001 Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Your weight is fine, and you look to be average build. You're not over weight.
Pompom Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 As a very visual person, I'd say put variety in your images. Basically you have uploaded the same picture over and over. It's a self-made indoor shot with the same composition and angle. Basically your images say that a) you don't get out, b) you have no one to take pictures of or with you, and c) you're boring. These things may not even be true, but it's what the pictures suggest and pictures can be stronger than facts. I would also correct the spelling/capitalization where you list your qualities. Your texts are poorly structured and come over as somewhat immature, no offense. Your height isn't short at all and I wouldn't put it there the way you do as it might come over as self-conscious, and that doesn't work very well 1
Necromancer Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 honestly, you could look two times better if you wanted to. -remove the glasses. -get to the gymm. -new hair style. -buy better clothes (average t-shirt is not good enough). Like it or not. But that's my brutal opinion.
Jethro Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Couple of things... Can you make a certain picture the default or main picture? Make the last one that picture. As a photographer, I am horrified at the photos I see on dating pages, and no offence, yours are no exception. The last picture in the lineup is really the only one that is lit well. Take other pictures of yourself and this time, go outside and take them with the light on you. How much light? As much as possible. And smile. Some people can pull off the sexy, bad boy look with a stern, bold look on thier face. Sorry, but that's not you (I'm the same way). Smile in your pics, maybe some candid type shots. I think I am going to start marketing a photo biz directed at actively looking singles. I think I could make a mint. 2nd, as said before, get rid of all that stuff saying you can't find someone. No one wants desperate. I'm not saying you are, but it could be interpeted that way. They want confidence, happiness and optimisim. You are trying to sell a product. No one sold the original Coke-a-Cola by saying "We can't find anyone to try this new beverage, but it's really good."
GirlontheLam Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 1. Your photos are misleading. Most of them look distorted, so it is hard to get a "true" picture of what you look like. 2. Your profile doesn't really give us any ideas of what you like or what you are looking for. It reads to me like you are just looking for a casual sexual relationship. "I am lonely, are you? Let's meet up right now!" 3. Lots and lots of typos is a turn-off for me 4. I didn't see anything thing in your profile that jumped out to me as interesting. Maybe share a story about your favorite camping recipes, or a short anecdote about why you like fishing or something
onyxangyll Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 all ur pics look the same.. try switching things up a bit. try taking a few pics of urself in which ur not staring directly at the camera..and maybe take one of urself outside with a couple of friend so people don't think ur a couch potato with no social life. also.. back up from the camera so people can see more than just ur head. try smiling a bit.. u look angry in some of the pics. oh.. get rid of pic #3 cuz it looks creepy. a gym membership wudnt hurt.. neither wud contact lenses. oh and.. the way you are dressed is a turn off.. the graphic tees kind of add to the whole 'couch potato' look. no offense or anything.. i'm just saying what i honestly think. g'luck <3
hurting tonight Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Funny I'm so different. Out of all the stupid profiles of men posing, pretending, extra. Your profile and pics us the one i would choose. Why? You seem genuine, not pretending to be something your not. That's what's attractive. A true person not looking for a poser will see that. Honestly I wouldn't change to appease anyone.
hurting tonight Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Sorry for the typos, my phone has a mind of its own.
CarrieT Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 As others have said, the t-shirt is a dead giveaway; especially since the most telling t-shirt is goth/fantasy with a dragon. If you are interested in that realm, talk about it. But you should have a picture or two with a regular, button-down shirt and definitely a picture or two taken by someone else - there is nothing more telling than a full selection of pix self-taken (i.e., you don't have a friends?) Also, don't say you are having a hard time meeting someone. It does come across as desperate. And your statement is pretty generic. What is about you that you really want someone to know or are willing to share? Lastly, work on the grammar and punctuation.
FitChick Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 I'm repeating some things already mentioned but maybe that's because they are important. 1. Diet and exercise 2. Smile and look approachable 3. More full length photos. 4. You like the outdoors so how about pix of you at a campfire, putting up a tent, or just a photo of you in the woods with your dog. 5. Explain why you like camping and the outdoors -- peace and quiet, listening to the birds, looking for wildlife. It will grab the attention of someone else who likes those things. 6. Maybe your user name should be GentleGiant but that is probably taken. Paul Bunyan?
Author jk35058 Posted August 21, 2012 Author Posted August 21, 2012 Thanks for the advise to everyone... I will change things up a bit.
Meg717 Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 I agree with Jethro - go to a photographer and get some new pics taken. They know the best way to make you look good without it being deceiving. I absolutely disagree with AlexCross - I HATE when guys have a bunch of pictures with other people, I don't care what your friends look like. It doesn't impress me. If you want to appear social, I supposed including 1 pic with friends wouldn't hurt, but I'm not interested in those types of pics.
Titanwolf Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 b) he is not a loner sociopathic nutcase who lives in a basement I resent that. What's wrong with sociopaths. They're the most emotionally stable people on earth (I joke). OP, you're a single guy, no doubt with some free time on his hands. Get your ass to a gym and train. What's stopping you? you'll feel better, you'll look better and you'll develop a latent confidence you never knew you had. Also, as everyone else mentioned, your bio sounds rather desperate. Have some pride man *bitch slap*. Also, admiring dat pose on the bed, you dirty devil you (all homo) 2
Titanwolf Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 I think the almost identical photos he has of himself is one of the basic problems Yeah I agree.
Titanwolf Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Ok lets take a poll, I say the OP gets cornrows, anyone got any other input? In4poll. +1
Meg717 Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Actually, dating sites recommend it. But you are entitled to your opinion. Having a picture with friends shows a) he is social b) he is not a loner sociopathic nutcase who lives in a basement c) he is outgoing. I am not saying have all the pics with friends but 2 wouldnt hurt. My female friends who Online Date tell me the stereotypical IPhone pics taken in the bathroom mirror are a huge turnoff. I totally agree..I do not like bathroom/mirro pictures and I do not like activity pics where I can't see the guys face.. Pictures are one of the most important thing with online dating and I feel like that's where people fall short.. I just notice that if a LOT of guys put more than 1 pic with friends...half the time they all look alike so I'm trying to figure out which guy the profile belongs to. So moral of the story OP - get better pics (including variety)!
Meg717 Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Here's a great article: Online Dating - How to Make the Best Profile - Men's Fitness
Janesays Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 (edited) There's nothing wrong with being chubby or nerdy or whatever. Just own the hell out of it. Personally, I totally go for the dorky type. Always have. What are your hobbies or interests? Give me something to work with and I'll give specific examples. Edited August 21, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Response to deleted post
kaylan Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 You are not giving any kind of indication of what sort of woman you are looking for, it looks as if you are relying on your photos to do the talking entirely hoping that lots will contact you based on those. To be brutally honest the best thing you can do is to purchase a gym membership and go hardcore with weight lifting and running for 6 months. 'Average' body build does not cover it. You need to get into shape. Gonna have to agree with this. Especially on a website like POF, you need to be in better shape to truly compete with the amount of guys on there. And put up some different pics of you doing different things. Not the same face picture over and over. I used to have pictures up of me playing soccer, or guitar, or out with friends.
Author jk35058 Posted August 21, 2012 Author Posted August 21, 2012 Glad to hear it. Like I said before, there's nothing wrong with being chubby or nerdy or whatever. Just own the hell out of it. Personally, I totally go for the dorky type. Always have. What are your hobbies or interests? Give me something to work with and I'll give specific examples. Well I love anything outdoors,Shooting,Gaming, Music... I don't know maybe cooking, Fishing, Camping, working on cars, weapon collecting, Road trips, Hiking, Swimming.
William Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 You can see by my edits and deletions what and what is not 'tough love'. When in doubt, call us. We know what the rules are and have all the guns. No infractions here, though I deleted 13 posts, a significant portion of the thread. Let's keep it that way, infraction-free. That's my feedback. Carry on.
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