livelife Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 I've been so affected by this break up, three months later and I still catch myself crying over it. I'm not happy anymore. I'm not who I used to be three months ago, and he told me that tonight. He told me that who i've become isnt who he wants to be with, he wants the girl he had. So how can I be happy again? I really really am trying but i'm taking classes and working, its like I'm reminded of the break up every time I go to sleep (I did it, on impulse and tried to take it back right after) and it just upsets me because its not what I wanted at all. I just reallly want to quit crying over it so I can be the person he wants.
lil hoodlum Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Like you said, you did something on impulse and found out it was a mistake. You regret it big time and it sounds like you are punishing yourself. Have you thought about forgiving yourself? You made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. Just tell yourself that you are a human and that we all make mistakes and that is ok and forgive yourself. I liken it to you are caring around this big burden and it is weighing you down. I don't know, it's just an opinion. Good luck!
steelgator Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 first of all you need to be the person you want not what he wants. You should only change for yourself. But if he wants you to be the person you were in the beginning, then start doing the things you did before you met him and try to make him see that. You cannot be happy with a person before you are happy independently and maybe he sees that.
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