SecretsAreMine Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Okay so im just going to start my story. well i dated this guy J for a year and a half and things ended kinda badly and that was about 7 months ago i use to live in the same city as him for the first 9 months of our relationship and then i moved away 3 hours and we dated another 7 months until things went bad but i havent been able to get over him this whole time we've been apart. the relationship that him and i had was really serious even though we are only like 16. we both had plans to get married and have kids together and after he graduated he was going to move to my city so we could be together. we still talk constently and now that even though we broke up he is still saying these things and i really want to get back together with him. hes really sweet and says the most amazing things and i really love him. now since me and J broke up ive gotten a new bf A. me and A have been dating for almost two months but i dont know how well things are going. we bicker and stuff and some days i feel like i cant stand him but other days its like we are perfectly happy and everything is fine. A tends to be more of a bad boy kind of type and hes been getting me into things that i never was involved in when i was dating J. A also does things that really get on my nerves and hes never been very affectionate. he does live in the same city as me so i do get to see him a lot more then i saw J when it was long distance. when im with A in public i almost feel embarrased to be with him. he doesnt have the best reputation with people so a lot of people dont like him but he has never done anything wrong to me. im really starting to think that things with him arent really working out. Now here is my problem, i dont know if want to break up with A and i dont want to hurt him and my parents love him, i want to be with J but its long distance and my parents hate him and i dont know if he will even get back together with me while its long distance. i dont know if i should stay with A and just work through the fights and things or if i should break up with him and go back to J that makes me really really happy or just drop everything and be single. i really need the help... Thanks Sarah.
FitChick Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 It sound like you have a relationship of convenience, not love. Just because your parents like him doesn't mean you have to. You are the one dating and sleeping with him. There are plenty of men in your city. Look for someone more compatible. You aren't responsible for A's life. He has to learn to deal with rejection some time.
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