raindrop27 Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Me and my boyfriend (he's not actually my boyfriend it's a bit complicated but it's irrelevant for the benefit of this thread) like virtually NONE of the same foods. I like pretty much ALL vegetables except carrots and turnip, he like NO veg except carrots and turnip!! I am reeeally fussy about meat (I only really eat chicken), he is a big meat eater and will eat pretty much any animal as long as it's dead. I love really hot/spicy food/anything with chilli and he hates anything with any heat to it. Brown bread/white bread, whole grain pasta/white pasta, love cheese/hates cheese, the list goes on and on but I guess it's the meat and veg thing and the chilli thing that I see as the biggest problem in the future. Is anybody else in a LTR with these issues?? Is it a major hassle having to cook separate meals to each other? (because that is the only solution that I can see really as it's getting to the point where we are going to be spending a lot of meal times together!). One of the things I really used to enjoy doing with my ex was cooking, having him cook for both of us (usual) or me cook for both of us (less usual - he was a brilliant cook). Obviously there are many other things me and my bf enjoy doing together (and we are largely more compatible than me and my ex!). I'm just wondering if this is going to be a huge pain in the ass for both of us or whether it really won't matter in the grand scheme of things. What is your experience LSers?
pteromom Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I'm just wondering if this is going to be a huge pain in the ass for both of us or whether it really won't matter in the grand scheme of things. Both. I am a vegetarian and my husband is a complete meat and potatoes guy. We eat separate meals and eat out a lot. It's a pain in the butt, but also not that big of a deal. It would be nice to be able to cook a meal I would love and share it with him, but that's just not gonna happen, so I don't worry too much about it.
CarrieT Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I am a MAJOR foodie and this is a hot button for me. I went to cooking school and worked as a food-and-wine writer, so having someone who is at least amenable to trying new things is critical. It is also important for me to share food so that I can try new things - I kinda don't trust someone who won't share tastes... I don't have to be with someone who likes everything I do, but being with someone who won't at least try new things would be a deal-breaker for me. I very briefly dated a man who liked really, really spicy food. That's okay - even though I can't eat anything too hot. But when we would go out, I would ask to taste what he ordered. He hated doing that and would deliberately order the spiciest thing on the menu just so I couldn't taste it, or he would say, "if you want to try it, why don't you just order it?" Drove me nuts and we didn't last long. My current BF and I are pretty aligned in our tastes which helps a lot, but my BF tells me about his last GF who was a strictly meat-and-potatoes girl and - at 50 years of age! - had never tasted fish in her life... It became a problem for him because she wouldn't go out for sushi or anything with seafood.
pteromom Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 But when we would go out, I would ask to taste what he ordered. He hated doing that and would deliberately order the spiciest thing on the menu just so I couldn't taste it, or he would say, "if you want to try it, why don't you just order it?" Drove me nuts and we didn't last long. You and I wouldn't be in a relationship together. I can't stand when someone eats my food - or ESPECIALLY my dessert! I'm with your ex - if you want to taste something, order it, even if you order three meals.
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