No Contact, my ex keeps blowing up my phone even though she is seeing another guy

[digon1631]

Hey guys,

 

So a week and a half ago I told my ex gf that I loved her and that I hope she has a good life but I am not going to talk to her because I need to move on with my life. And I also told her that I hope shes happy with her new guy. We have been broken up for almost 3 months and I was friends with her after being broken up for about 6 weeks until I walked in on her and another guy. When I was telling her all these nice things, she was completely annoyed and wanted to get off the phone and told me yeah right you're going to talk to me. So I started NC and she has texted/called me once everyday or multiple times a day. Everyday it is about something different, such as "r u going to take care of my dog?" or just calls with no messages left. Last night she called me at 3 in the morning and then proceeded to call me 5 or 6 times with 4 text messages. all this was about this time was about her dog. she texted me a picture of her dog and asked me if i was going to take care of it and then threatened me okay that's it im going to stop calling you and give my friend my dog. I didn't respond.

 

It has only been a week and a half and she has not stopped contacting me. I honestly miss her, but I really think this is the best way for me to move on with my life and maybe way later in life i might be able to talk to her again. What does she want out of me? She told me she didnt want to hang out with me, and yet she asked me to but i didnt respond. She told me she is completely over me and likes this new guy and doesn't want to tlak to me becasue it will make him jealous but she tries to contact me everyday. She uses blocked calls and everything. We were together for 3.5 years, does she miss me? She has a really stubborn attitude and I just dont understand why she feels the need to contact me when she is with her new guy.

 

I dont want to be led on again like i did when i was her "friend"(even though we acted the same), so i am not contacting her. My question is, when should i break no contact? I read at different places i have to for about a month. Should i only break it when she tries to apologize to me or tell me she wants to get back together? I wouldnt let her get back with me so easily if i even want to, but I just want some opinions on it.

[Balzac]

Never would be too soon.

[salmagundi]

Your ex is contacting you because (a)she's a twat and (b) she cannot believe that you might actually have a spine and that you won't immediately lie down and continue being her doormat. This is apparently hard on her deformed ego.

 

You know the answers to your questions but let me reiterate anyway:

1. No you do not want her back

2. Whether or not you ever become friends one day is entirely irrelevant. Right now she is your ex and as such must be made to disappear from your life.

3. You will not respond. You have a spine (right?). You know she is just pulling your chain (right?).

4. You will not initiate any contact for reasons asinine or supremely justifiable. As a matter of fact there are no justifiable reasons for contact. Only asinine ones.

 

Now is the time to turn around, face yourself forward to the future and move on.

 

Good luck:)

[John85]

I'd do no contact for a while

Edited August 22, 2012 by John85