Billy BB Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I posted here a few days ago(on my phone so I can't post link), but just got off phone with ex after 3 days of no texting/facebook/calling. Asked me how I was doing, then told me her dad threatened to get a divorce last night. Talked for about 35 minutes, not about us, about her parents. I've had lunch and dinner with her twice after breakup, one went great, the other did not. Now I want to show up at get apartment with get favorite pizza, call her, have her look out window, and ask her to go sit in a park and eat, just to get get mind off everything. I'm split 50\50 on this...need help!!
Balzac Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I wouldn't be an emotional tampon but many men willingly rush to become one.
Crila16 Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Need more details. Who broke up with who? Why did you break 2 break up? How long ago?
Author Billy BB Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 original post should be in first few pages, titled 'is she just throwing me bones...' Let me be more clear on contact. I happened across job posting for her that sounded perfect, debated, but emailed it to her. She texted me back thanking me, and said she just wanted to say hi, and her families going through rough times, so I stopped texting, and called her.
Crila16 Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Ok. Read your post. NO...No you really shouldn't show up. I understand you love her. I understand this was a woman you wanted to marry. A woman you lived with and were together with for 5 years...but no. When it's over in someone's heart, it's unlikely that it will come back...at least not at this time. It's not anything you did...it may be that this girl has the grass is green syndrome. She's cheated on every guy she's ever been with for another guy. Now she's recycling the old ones. Don't worry...you'll probably be in the mix again one day. I think you need to back off, if only for your sake. The only chance you have of even getting her to miss you is the NC. You're too available right now and ready to woo this girl back. She ended it. If she wants you, she'll come to you. You can't change that no matter how hard you try. I was that girl with the 6 year boyfriend from college. I moved to NYC to be with him from Boston. I fell out of love with him...and no matter how hard he tried, I just didn't want to be with him anymore. He wanted to get married. Good news...I have 3 female friends who KICK themselves for breaking up with long term boyfriends from the past. They realized they were fools for letting them go. That's most likely what will happen in this case. NC.
Author Billy BB Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 well it's an hours drive each way from where i;m staying and where we lived together. so, it'd be a loooong ride home if she got pissed i showed up. it really could go either way though... maybe i should call and get that pizza delivered too her place instead?? (pay over the phone obviously)
Crila16 Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Lol...no. I wouldn't do that either. Look. You know your relationship better than anyone. You know her better than anyone. What do you honestly think she's thinking? She did say she wanted to break up and explore other options, didn't she?
Author Billy BB Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 Yes, she did break up with me. Its just very hard to hear her talk about her family, and shopping, and everyday things, and then just sit here and wait. I know now from everybody slapping me in the face and telling me its not a movie, that all I can do is wait for her to call, otherwise she doesn't want to be with me. Period. So thank you all. I just hate the feeling of what could of been if I tried, but didn't.
ThatJustHappened Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Well..at least you've learned your lesson. Next time you find a girl you love..pay attention!
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