Coyoteloco Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Sorry, i know i wouldnt post any more threads, but im about to kill some1 right now. The thing is that my ex gf of 6 years, which broke up with me 1 month ago. Ok maybe u already knew that. But the thing is i called her and asked to meet her, this was on friday and she told me that she had this test on monday but after that there was no problem. So then on saturday she goes and she does this photoshop for a girlfriend clother bussines, and in the pictures she was pretty slutty and in one picture she was with one very close friend of mine (which haves a girlfriend) and they were like about to kiss, she knows this would drive me ****in nuts and im about to loose it right now. Also my sister which was there told me that she acted like if she had already moved on. But when ever i talk to her on the phone she starts to cry. im ****in loosing my mind here, i dont even know what kind of answer im waiting for but i need to take this out of my system. I already unfriend her from facebook, do you think she is trying to make me jealous or she truly moved on? I wish i would never fall inlove with this bitch.
flitzanu Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Sorry, i know i wouldnt post any more threads, but im about to kill some1 right now. The thing is that my ex gf of 6 years, which broke up with me 1 month ago. Ok maybe u already knew that. But the thing is i called her and asked to meet her, this was on friday and she told me that she had this test on monday but after that there was no problem. So then on saturday she goes and she does this photoshop for a girlfriend clother bussines, and in the pictures she was pretty slutty and in one picture she was with one very close friend of mine (which haves a girlfriend) and they were like about to kiss, she knows this would drive me ****in nuts and im about to loose it right now. Also my sister which was there told me that she acted like if she had already moved on. But when ever i talk to her on the phone she starts to cry. im ****in loosing my mind here, i dont even know what kind of answer im waiting for but i need to take this out of my system. I already unfriend her from facebook, do you think she is trying to make me jealous or she truly moved on? I wish i would never fall inlove with this bitch. everyone loves to assume ever action their ex makes is about them, when 99% of the time it isn't. just because she took a photo for a BUSINESS with someone doesn't mean anything. she's living her life, and you need to live yours and stop worrying about what she's doing. 1
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 yes man i know what ur saying, but she did this before when the break up was fresh, when i told her she wasnt the one i fall inlove with, she took this pictures which she admited it was to make me jealous. And then why the **** she calls me crying, and i dont know man. I still love her, and i want her, but on the other hand i wish i would never ever fall inlove with her :'( Im feeling really bad right now.
Chi townD Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Flitz is right. Here's the thing. She broke up with you. So, while she was dating you, she knew that sooner or later, she was going to pull the trigger on the relationship. During that time, she was already mourning the loss of the relationship while you two were still IN a relationship. So, once she broke up with you her feelings on the matter weren't that intense because she already disconnected from the relationship. In the meantime, this is news to you, you're now mourning the loss of the relationship while she's already had a head start on you in the healing process. That's why it seems that she's so....adjusted to not having you around. Dude, we've be preaching it from your first post. Are you NOW going to start NC or what......
weallfalldown Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 leave her be..........you'll feel better in time...
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 yes, i unfriend her from facebook, and i was in somewhat limited contact, but now its going to be no contact at all. But i still dont know what its going on with her.
Crila16 Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 You really need to chill out. This was a photoshop picture. It was for business. She's not sleeping with him. It's called pretend. Wow...you really are a jealous person. You jump to conclusions for no reason and make her this horrible person that she's probably not. Also, just because someone else said she seemed happy and has moved on, is only one person's perception.
yessy21 Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 DUDE. CHILL THE F**** Out! you only get to live a remote 80 years if your lucky. 20 of them you spend trying to figure the right way to wipe your A**, and another 10 trying to figure out how to wear your adult diaper, so why the F**** would you waste any more time trying to figure out why this girl isnt making sense. SHe has issues that she has to get over and apparently you being around for 6 years hasnt helped... take a hint. 3
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 (edited) ok yes i know. Im a really jealous person, maybe thats not ok, but its just something inside me like an animal instinct i have, and i cant control it. Yessy21 your right maybe being so much time with me just confused her so much. She now is skinnier than ever, on our first year together she was going through some anorexia and bulimia thing, and also now she started smoking (so did i lol) . I dont know but its just that i love her so much , i need to grow some balls and chill out like u guys say. Im sorry for so much spam, but this is like the biggest thing in my life so far, probably in some years ill be laughin about how i reacted on all of this like u guys are laughin at me rigth now lolololol its hard to let go Ok i just read wwhat i wrote at the begining, and its pretty messed up lololol i apologize for that, sorry. It was my emotions out of control. Sorry again Edited August 20, 2012 by Coyoteloco 1
flitzanu Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 nah dude it's understandable. it sucks, and it hurts, and it is going to for a while. but you need to understand there is NOTHING you can do about it except focus on ignoring it, and especially ignoring her. if you waste your time believing there's some big hidden meaning in what she's doing, you're going to drive yourself crazy. she left, so let her be gone.
yessy21 Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 No worries.... ive had time i thought about sticking my foot up someone with such force i wanted to see their intestines a block away..... But unfortunatley... i like to go to the mall and watch tv too much... being in jail kinda restricts that.
Chi townD Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Flitz...again, is right. You have no control over this and what she does. So, you need to take control of one of the only things you have power over and that's to ignore her. Heal and move on. THAT'S what you have the power to do. 1
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 22, 2012 Author Posted August 22, 2012 thanks again for the answers. Im doing that right now, just ignoring her, shifting all that love i feel for her into hate, so that way i dont feel sad i just feel disgusted. Little by little i feel better each day. But i can see theres still a long road ahead for me to feel happy and fullfilled again. I have hope that that day will come. But hey, i wake up hating her and dont giving a ****k about her, but i go to sleep sad and wishing she was still with me. This is one of the hardest things i ever went through. But my greatest fear is to never have a girlfriend again, i miss the female company and love so much :'( and even if i ever get a new girlfriend how the **** im going to trust her after going through all of this? Do you think therapy would be a good idea? or it isnt really necesary?
yessy21 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 Welllllll, if you have the insurance or money for it go right ahead! but if your broke like a joke i suggest having therapy sessions with a journal. Lol. Therapy would be really good. it will help you put things in a different light. I had therapy for 6 months and I really looked forward to my therapy sessions every week. One thing that i noticed that it helped alot in is answering my questions about why things happened. the best part is that you answer them yourself... its like coming to terms and realization.
Chi townD Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 Do you think therapy would be a good idea? or it isnt really necesary? If you're trying to turn your love into hate, then yes. I would strongly recommend you seeking therapy to help process your feelings. Hating someone takes a lot of energy and brings you down. And to be honest, she isn't worth your hate. She's worth your indifference. 2
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