2muchlove Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 So I went to our mutual friends going away party. Everything was great. I was nice and drunk. And out of nowhere a friend of the ex said she cheated on me with my best friend/roommate thinking I already knew! Well I was livid at this point. So what did I do? I went from happy drunk to raging drunk and stormed downstairs away from the party and into the lobby of the hotel room where I began texting my ex. Aggressively asked her if it was true. Naturally she denied it. I'll spare the details of the rest of the conversation but I assure you getting raped by an elephant would have been a worthy alternative. I've been talking to her all morning in a hungover haze I still have as I write this. Until I realize what I'm doing. So I tell her to be happy and end the conversation. **** it.
youngnlove89 Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Ouch. I'm sorry. That hurts. She won't step up to the plate either. Of course she will deny it. It's in the past now. I know it's hard, I would be very upset too. But take that with you. Don't forget that, hold onto that anger. This will help you move along. Do you want someone to cheat on you and then lie about it later? I hope you don't. You deserve better. You will find someone who treats you right and doesn't cheat or lie. When you find the one, you will realize why it didn't work out with her and you will be thankful.
Author 2muchlove Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 Thanks youngnlove. Tsk, tsk, tsk...... I know! I can't tell if I took backwards steps. I didn't hear anything I haven't already. But I still feel like ****. I know I was wrong for drunk conversing with her but was I wrong to ask a question like that when I still live with the guy?
TaraMaiden Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I think waiting until you were sober then calmly discussing it with him might have been wiser.... But hey, when you're one over the eight, Captain Sensible don't come calling.... Do you know, incidentally, why I don't drink? ^^That's why. I'd be the biggest damnfool ever.
weallfalldown Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 sorry dude.....hope your ok mucker........ She aint worth the **** on the bottom of your shoe......end of!.
Author 2muchlove Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 haha Tara. Not to mention the massive destruction of brain cells that follows. I gotta lay off the sauce for good.
weallfalldown Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 haha Tara. Not to mention the massive destruction of brain cells that follows. I gotta lay off the sauce for good. if i had a pound....................
Crila16 Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 The friend of the ex knew you didn't know. That person was starting trouble. Anyway...I hope for you talk and don't yell at her so you can get to the bottom of it. Make sure this other person who threw her under the bus isn't just trying to break you two up for their own selfish purposes.
Author 2muchlove Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 sorry dude.....hope your ok mucker........ She aint worth the **** on the bottom of your shoe......end of!. Sup man! Thanks. I'll be good. Just gotta shake it off and get a good nights sleep.
Author 2muchlove Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 The friend of the ex knew you didn't know. That person was starting trouble. Anyway...I hope for you talk and don't yell at her so you can get to the bottom of it. Make sure this other person who threw her under the bus isn't just trying to break you two up for their own selfish purposes. If this girl wasn't the sweetest little person I've ever met, and my roommate didn't already make a move on my ex. I wouldn't have believed it. But there was too much there in place to believe it. And I already talked with her. Conversations rarely go well with her since all I can do is talk about the relationship. Which upsets her, and turns her already cold blood to ice. It's the same every time. And I leave with just as many answers: zero.
weallfalldown Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 If this girl wasn't the sweetest little person I've ever met, and my roommate didn't already make a move on my ex. I wouldn't have believed it. But there was too much there in place to believe it. And I already talked with her. Conversations rarely go well with her since all I can do is talk about the relationship. Which upsets her, and turns her already cold blood to ice. It's the same every time. And I leave with just as many answers: zero. mate you've been doing so well.......keep your pecker up.......**** her!!!
Crila16 Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 This girl is a lot of work. Too much work. You're far better off without her.
Author 2muchlove Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 mate you've been doing so well.......keep your pecker up.......**** her!!! Yea I actually said that to her. hah... I'm still fine. Just a road bump. This girl is a lot of work. Too much work. You're far better off without her. You have nooooo idea. She is beyond repair unfortunately.
Chi townD Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I would have said, " You've just made never talking to you extremely easy." And then NC for good!
Author 2muchlove Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 I would have said, " You've just made never talking to you extremely easy." And then NC for good! God dammit chi-town... You always give me good advice too late. I'm going to have to ask that you find out before hand when these things arise in my life so that I may use your script.
Chi townD Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 LOL!!! You still have time to use it. Chances are this isn't the last time she'll contact you. She just got busted; in a little shock, caught off guard and she's probably trying to figure out EXACTLY what you know and how you found out. She's kind of in a damage control. One thing about women is most can't stand the fact that someone on this planet hates them or doesn't think that they are a nice person. The guilt is probably going to eat at her and she's going to want to check up on you.
Author 2muchlove Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 I'm going to remember this post for when it does happen.
Blastoplast Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 So I went to our mutual friends going away party. Everything was great. I was nice and drunk. And out of nowhere a friend of the ex said she cheated on me with my best friend/roommate thinking I already knew! Why the !@#$ would somebody do something like this, at a party where you're there to CELEBRATE! I had a very similar thing happen to me at a friends 30th birthday party 3 weeks ago -- but the claims were unsubstantiated in my eyes. Just what they "heard". Why even say anything if you're not 100% sure.
Author 2muchlove Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 Why the !@#$ would somebody do something like this, at a party where you're there to CELEBRATE! I had a very similar thing happen to me at a friends 30th birthday party 3 weeks ago -- but the claims were unsubstantiated in my eyes. Just what they "heard". Why even say anything if you're not 100% sure. She was under the impression I already knew. She was suuppper upset afterwards too. She was freaking out when she realized I didn't know. But I feel ya. Why even bring it up? I don't remember the conversation that preceded that comment but it happened.
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