The Way I Am Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 30 year old dating a 20 year old? Wow how did that happen? I met him through work. He's an intern in the same field. He invited me to a group biking thing. I found him very interesting and sweet. And he thought I was 23. lol How do you deal with the fact that he doesn't make anywhere near the same money as you?I could not care less. Sometimes he pays. Sometimes I pay. Sometimes we split things. Not really any different than any other relationship I've had. He's actually much better at business than I am. I'm good with strategy and marketing but much too blunt and terrible at small talk and schmoozing. He has his own business, and I admire his ambition and skills even if he doesn't make a lot of money.
StillReigning Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 I met him through work. He's an intern in the same field. He invited me to a group biking thing. I found him very interesting and sweet. And he thought I was 23. lol I could not care less. Sometimes he pays. Sometimes I pay. Sometimes we split things. Not really any different than any other relationship I've had. He's actually much better at business than I am. I'm good with strategy and marketing but much too blunt and terrible at small talk and schmoozing. He has his own business, and I admire his ambition and skills even if he doesn't make a lot of money. Nice, he'll likely be successful when he's older anyways The big downside of dating a younger man is it's doubtful he is going to want to commit until he's at least about 25-27
RedRobin Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 (edited) 30 year old dating a 20 year old? Wow how did that happen? How do you deal with the fact that he doesn't make anywhere near the same money as you? When I was 33, I dated a 22 year old for awhile. We were both in grad school together, for the same degree. We would have made about the same after graduation... me a little more since I had more work experience. It didn't work out (mostly me... I was freshly divorced), but he did end up marrying a woman about 8 years older than him. He was hot too... an Olympic doubles rower. ...oh, and about the commitment part... he met the woman he ended up marrying about a year after we broke up (23). They dated for a year and were married the year after (25). He was determined to settle down before he graduated. He had big career plans... I wasn't ready to get re-married that fast... and frankly... the age difference made me skeptical. Again, all on me... We still keep in touch professionally. He is still married. Edited August 21, 2012 by RedRobin
The Way I Am Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 The big downside of dating a younger man is it's doubtful he is going to want to commit until he's at least about 25-27 That's actually along the lines of what I thought this thread was going to be about from the title. I'm in no rush to be married. I've never looked at it as a goal to accomplish by a certain age. Though if I'm in a strong relationship and want to spend my life with someone, I would be fine with formalizing it through marriage.
nofool4u Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 I always have to wonder when people say, "age is just a number". Sure, it always is, until one of the 2 in the relationship start to look much older than the other. I always have to shake my head when I see a much older man with a young woman. I'd like to slap them upside the head and tell them, "snap out of it and get someone you can grow old with" Same for women. Everyone knew Demi wouldn't hold on to Ashton. And now she has went off the deep end because he is finding out that there are alot of women his own age that want him. Get someone your own age, or sooner or later they will realize they are dating their grandmother/father. Of course anyone can date anyone they want, but don't act like it came as such a shock when they don't want to be seen with someone collecting their senior discounts at a restaurant.
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