Janegill Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I was in love with this guy 28 years ago in my home country -college time, but could not marry him as my parents did not approve of him and he was of different religion etc.... a conservative background. When my parents found out about this relationship they made me leave that town and I was not able to let my boyfriend know why I left and what happened. During those days we did not have phone calls and I could not contact him anyway. I was devastated and felt bad for having done this to my friend ... I was married (arranged by parents)then to another guy and have been living with him since 26 years, in different countries, now in Americas, have two wonderful kids-adults now. My relationship has been very rocky always, but I stuck with him as I did not want to lose my children and had no other options as I belong to very conservative family who are against divorce etc... although I have thought of it many times. I did not know until now what happened to my friend.. as in my home country I was not able to contact anyone to ask about him as I was afraid my parents will find out. I have been trying to search him online though and finally last month I found him on Facebook, when he opened a new account. (He is still in my home country where technology is not too great) . He tried finding me but sam ewas afraid to ask mutual friends for the fear it might create problems in my current life. Anyways, I called him up and he was so thrilled to talk to me and almost cried and poured all his affection for me. We have since been talking over the phone, texting and pouring our hearts out. He wants me to come back and meet him. He is married too with 2 teenage children. He too is not too happy with his relationship but loves his children and we both probably will not end our current relationships, but still want to meet and continue our relationship. He is unable to travel as what will he tell his family. He lives in a small town where everyone knows each other and it is difficult for him to make travel plans to come to America. I do go to visit my family in my home country sometime once a year or so. I am totally confused what I should do as he is adamant that we should meet personally --which might lead to physical relationship. I am scared of this move but also want to meet him. Please help!! I understand this is cheating but it has been driving me crazy all those years knowing I played with somebodies emotions and left without a word. I thought he would be mad with me all those years, but it turned out different. He does not want to keep it as a friendly relationship. I feel different, happy, like music, and everything that goes with falling in love again. What should I do?
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