villageman Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I had a fairly nasty break up of a 2 year relationship, about 6 months ago. My girlfriend was awesome, but I was going through a difficult time, didn't treat her great and she left. I'm having a really hard time getting over her, even though it's been 6 months. I think it's partly because she treated me so well, but also because she was a rare girl... like someone you'd see in the movies. Anyway, how long do you think is normal to get over a serious relationship with someone you really cared about, especially when it's unlikely that anyone is going to replace that person any time soon? It's been 6 months so far, and I'm still in a rough place. A year? More?
Pyro Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 When it comes to break ups nothing is normal and that includes time. At six months I would like to think that the worst is over but only you can determine that, just like you have the ability to heal faster. Keep yourself occupied with friends and hobbies and the more you are enjoying that the sooner you will realize that life does go on after a break up.
fucpcg Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 My last breakup was first time ever dumped by a girl I really screwed up with. I was in a dark place, problems with work, etc, and I just was not dealing with life well, let alone her. But she left, and at the time I truly deserved it. We were together a year, and it's 1.5 years post breakup and I am not really doing all that much better. When you lose someone very special, and you do because of your own actions, it REALLY makes it hard to move on. I love her, I miss her, we were amazing together, and I just can't forgive myself over what happened. 1
Blastoplast Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I lost my EX because of her inability to cope with stress related from financial strain. She left me because she didn't want me to be an anchor for her dreams and it's crushing. 4 months later I still have dreams of her, still think about her regularly -- but the thing is, I know she's doing the same. Every month gets better, but there are some days where I take some steps back. You just have to do your best to live in the moment and enjoy every sandwich. I'm back in school now at 28 (never too old for an education) and I was very apprehensive at first, but now I'm SO glad that I'm there and doing it. It's keeping my mind focused on other things, rather than dwelling on what she's doing -- because that's what really drives me up a wall more than anything, wondering where she is and what she's doing.
coltsfan1 Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I was in a 4 year relationship, I wanted to marry the girl. That being said it took 1 solid year for me to grieve, get mad, get sad then except things for what they are. Then it took another year for me to get myself back, when you are with a person and trying to plan a life together goals get combined. All in all, 2 solid years to reach a place where when we see each other I don't want to say hello or yell. Just excepting that we are now just two people from each others past.
Author villageman Posted August 21, 2012 Author Posted August 21, 2012 Yeah... I at this point honestly don't feel like I'm ever going to get over this one. I've had a couple of other serious relationships end before, and it took about a year to really get over it, but in this case, something feels different. Those times before, I was broken up about the relationship but felt like I'd eventually find someone as good or better if I just kept looking. This time... I don't know if it's because I turned 30, or because this girl was so amazing, or what, but I don't have that optimism and it's making moving on pretty tough... hopefully time will help.
Author villageman Posted August 21, 2012 Author Posted August 21, 2012 @ blastoplast Ha, I'm back in school too, at age 30! So yeah, never to late for that.
coltsfan1 Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 I didn't start my life long career till 30, when I finished college. Well worth the wait!! I am one of the few that look forward to work on Monday!! Keep at it hard work ALWAYS pays off!!
kindest Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 Our love affair only went on for 6 months, and 6 months later here I am still hurting, however, it's only because he did not stop contacting me when we broke up. It has only been 12 days since NC. 2nd time we went NC. First time it lasted a month until he reached out to me. When we were still together, I remember him telling me that if we would break up he would have a hard time letting me go even as a friend. That he was an 'all or nothing' guy (yeah, right) but with me he can't go nothing. Now I'm wondering was that a warning of some sort? Well, tough luck as I can't have his bread crumbs too. It was such a short time but this guy really hurt me, I felt deceived and it hurts when I remember that I asked him to spare me from all the hurt. I've been in $h1tty relationships before and he was aware of that. I don't know if I'll be able to get over him anytime soon.
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