bigred0489 Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 We broke up three months ago, or rather she ended it (for the second time). I went total no contact after i found out that she was seeing someone else a few weeks after the break up. I was devastated. We had been together for two years. She spent a month in Africa on charity work which helped me as contact wasn't an option then anyway. When she came back she sent me a few messages which i ignored. One of them was to say she was coming up to visit friends over the weekend, it would be nice to meet up etc. I ignored it, went on on saturday night with mates and she saw me walk past (admittedly drunk), and immediately started calling and texting. THis went on until about 6am when one of us inevitably passed out/fell asleep. Then on sunday she suggests meeting up. I cave in and pick her up, go to a quiet bar for a chat and such, it was a laugh, we took part in the pub quiz before heading back to my car. One thing lead to another and we started kissing, went back to her place and ended up in bed. It was amazing, everything i could have wanted. She wouldn't let me go, wanted me to stay the night but i couldn't (started a new job recently and cant mess that up). She kept telling me she had missed me, missed us, missed getting intimate, calling me by our old pet names. She text me once i had gone saying that this wasn't how she had expected the night to go, but that she was so glad it did and that the hardest part of sitting in the bar was not being able to take hold of my hand. Im not sure whats going on with her and her new man, he was never brought up. I know i should feel guilty, due her being taken, but i dont. It felt so right, im sure she felt it too. I fell asleep last night and so responded to her this morning on my way into the office, she had to leave to head back down the road this morning for work and I havnt heard back. Please dont judge me, I love her. Always have.
Balzac Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 NO judgement here, you lived a dream, i'm happy for you. What an amazing story. Self control not to spend the night. Who knows that smile on her face might be the magic.
Author bigred0489 Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 NO judgement here, you lived a dream, i'm happy for you. What an amazing story. Self control not to spend the night. Who knows that smile on her face might be the magic. I hope so. This has happened before, we broke up for a couple of months and ended up sleeping together a few times before getting back together. I text her this morning, in reply to her message last night saying i was glad it happened. She replied saying she was too, she didnt want to make it more difficult, sense should have told her not to do anything but she couldn't help herself. At a total loss as to what i should think. She now knows she has me if she wants me, i've pretty much gone and undone three months of hard work to try and get over her, done what everyone told me not to do. Feel sick!
salem mark Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I wouldnt get back with her no matter how good last night was, (I'm going thru the same thing) if her history is ending it and you said shes done it twice, whats her to stop her from doing it again, take control of this and get your power back! 2
Author bigred0489 Posted August 21, 2012 Author Posted August 21, 2012 I wouldnt get back with her no matter how good last night was, (I'm going thru the same thing) if her history is ending it and you said shes done it twice, whats her to stop her from doing it again, take control of this and get your power back! I do see where you're coming from, unfortunately. This girl just has such a hold on me. And after our time together the other day, I know that there are still feelings or at least some kind of emotion there. I mean, she's with this other guy, has been for about two months now. Why would she then make a move on me, kiss me and love me in the way she did if there was nothing there? She says she's now confused, and in her most recent message to me admitted that she doesn't know what she wants and that it isn't fair on anyone. Surely that shows that she either isn't serious about her new guy, or that seeing me made her re-think her decision..
soccerrprp Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 NO judgement here, you lived a dream, i'm happy for you. What an amazing story. Self control not to spend the night. Who knows that smile on her face might be the magic. What a load of crap...nothing romantic about this, sorry. OP, you're wanting to get back with a girl that dumped you 2x? Has another boyfriend, but was willing to cheat on him? You want that kind of girl? And oh, you were willing to cheat with a girl that was taken...maybe you two deserve each other. Yes, judging here...it's guys like you that make it difficult for guys like us to find girls who do not have trust issues... Anyway, move on. She'll hurt you again...as it seems you have no problem hurting others as long as you get what you want.
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