Say Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Well, we have dated for 2 years now. She sends me so many different signals, I don't really understand what I am supposed to think. When we first started dating, she was spontaneous and would just crawl on top of me and we would kiss for hours and hours. She would always want to be with me constantly. During this point, she was very quiet and a follower. I wore the pants, we loved each other and it worked out well. After awhile, I got depressed and stuff happened and we ended up breaking up. 4 months later, we got back together. This time? She was suddenly confident. She stood up for herself, and took charge. Somewhat rude, but confident. The kissing started full force, she always wanted sex. Typically, I never wanted sex. She had the huge sex drive and mine was inexistant... however I wanted to kiss and hold her for the sake of intimacy. For the past few months, we don't really do much in the lines of intimacy. She invites me over daily,. always wants to be with me 24/7, Yet, we don't have sex much and we don't make out much either. Because of the huge difference I have actually gone from not wanting sex to being totally relentless about it. I feel starved. It frustrates me, because I go in to kiss her and she responds, but after one or two kisses she typically pulls away. If I pull her back in or hold her head, she'll get annoyed and say 'Not now." or "Not here, its tacky." and I just sigh. I love her, but... without this intimacy I don't know. I've been a great guy, I take her out to dinner and we get each other presents. I just need romance, I need intimacy. I can't keep seeing her every day just to cuddle and watch a show or go out. I want to kiss my girlfriend, I want to make love... and it frustrates me. Sooner or later, I feel like I will break up with her because I've started to look at other women sexually now. I can't help it. I love her, I want to have a family with her (she talks about it too) but I don't understand why she doesn't ever really get intimate with me...
Greznog Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Maybe you should stop swinging your libido from subzero to scorching hot all the time.
Author Say Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 Maybe you should stop swinging your libido from subzero to scorching hot all the time. She's just on birth control to control her cramps and periods. and i've been at scorching hot for the past few months unfortunately.
Author Say Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 Possibility there was another guy in the picture in the four month hiatus you took and they are still in contact. Nope. We see each other daily, and talk very often. I know her small group of friends, and she knows mine. There is absolutely no chance for another guy as i know who she talks to and all that, plus i would have noticed since she is always available to me.
Author Say Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 What about the 4 month break ? Oh, she actually WAS with someone during that time. She dated him for two months. I was with someone else too. She broke up with him, and she currently hates him. I've actually stood beside her while she cursed him out. By the way, its been 8 months since the four month break.
kaylan Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I remember your old threads where you took medication that killed your erections. Im thinking those past issues really made your girlfriends confidence, libido, and desire for you take a noise dive. Tbh dude...I think this relationship may not be able to be saved. Shes dealt with a lot and does not seem very into you anymore.
kaylan Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Also, you say shes been with someone without sexual issues in between that time. It makes sense that shes standoffish to having a lackluster love life again. I dont think she wants to be with you in all honesty. A girls sex drive generally reflects her emotional wants and needs.
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