lil hoodlum Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I would like some feedback on what you think my ex may be thinking. Quick recap ex and I were together 4.5 years, we are co-workers. She broke it off with me saying she isn't sure how she felt about me anymore and was confused. We have recently been talking again and playful touching and light flirting. Out of the blue, unrelated to topic, she mentioned another female co-worker was asking her why we broke up. Why do you think my ex would bring this topic up? I truthfully don't know the factual reason why she broke it off with me. We had a really good relationship with no "real issues/ deal breakers." Thank you for any input.
Author lil hoodlum Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 I really want to. But a part of me is kinda scared. I don't know why though and I have been thinking it over alot. I will say this, I do love her more than anything else in the world and I want to get back together with her. I want to marry her and wish that her, her daughter, and I could be a family. I want this more than anything I have ever wanted in my life. I just don't understand how she can go from being head-over-heels in love with me and wanting to get married to "not sure how she feels about me and being confused." It seems that there is a piece of information that is missing and that I do not know about it. Thank you for your reply.
Car10e Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Unfortunately, your never going to know unless you ask her. There may be a piece of information she is hiding from you that could ultimately destroy your relationship. Would you want to get back together wondering if she is hiding something from you?
Author lil hoodlum Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 Unfortunately, your never going to know unless you ask her. There may be a piece of information she is hiding from you that could ultimately destroy your relationship. Would you want to get back together wondering if she is hiding something from you?[/QUOT I can handle anything as long as she is honest with me. That is what I am worried about. I wonder if she won't be 100% honest with me as to why she broke up with me. I feel that she met/was interested in someone else. I believe she broke up with me to persue something else with this person. I'm almost 100% positive they are no more. I can see the guilt in her eyes when she looks at me sometimes. I understand that sometimes love and relationship can be difficult. I don't think they should be but I know that sometimes it is when there is poor communication. I think she was feeling vulnerable at a time and I wasn't meeting her emotional need. Maybe she wanted to persue it and found out the grass isn't allways greener. I can handle this if she is honest with me about everything. Then we could decide if we want to try again. I have honestly learned alot from reading on LS and through therapy and searching my feelings. Everybody makes mistakes sometimes, heck I know I have made a few. We can move beyond these and have a better relationship with a true love for one another. I think that maybe I should just give it a few more days and just think about it some more. Ever since she mentioned it, my emotions have been racing 100 MPH. Thank you for your input! It is much appreciated.
Car10e Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Unfortunately, your never going to know unless you ask her. There may be a piece of information she is hiding from you that could ultimately destroy your relationship. Would you want to get back together wondering if she is hiding something from you?[/QUOT I can handle anything as long as she is honest with me. That is what I am worried about. I wonder if she won't be 100% honest with me as to why she broke up with me. I feel that she met/was interested in someone else. I believe she broke up with me to persue something else with this person. I'm almost 100% positive they are no more. I can see the guilt in her eyes when she looks at me sometimes. I understand that sometimes love and relationship can be difficult. I don't think they should be but I know that sometimes it is when there is poor communication. I think she was feeling vulnerable at a time and I wasn't meeting her emotional need. Maybe she wanted to persue it and found out the grass isn't allways greener. I can handle this if she is honest with me about everything. Then we could decide if we want to try again. I have honestly learned alot from reading on LS and through therapy and searching my feelings. Everybody makes mistakes sometimes, heck I know I have made a few. We can move beyond these and have a better relationship with a true love for one another. I think that maybe I should just give it a few more days and just think about it some more. Ever since she mentioned it, my emotions have been racing 100 MPH. Thank you for your input! It is much appreciated. I'm going to tell you what happened to me. My ex bf and I went on a break for about a month. In the very beginning of the break, I met with one of his friend's girlfriend. Over dinner, she told me they noticed my ex talking to a girl a lot. I confronted him about it, where he proceeded to tell me it was nothing. His friends told me not to worry either, because she had a bf as well. From what his friends were telling me, I knew who it was right away. It was someone he worked with. My ex told me before that her bf worked at the gym that he was always at, so she was always there also. He told me they do text but its always about work. I left that night believing him. It all sounded pretty rational to me, and I honestly did not think he would lie to me. A month later, we broke up. I was fine with breaking up. I knew we both needed space to work on ourselves. That same week, I found out through my brother, who also works with one of my exe's co-workers, that there was a girl going around at his work calling my ex her new bf. Literally 2 days after we broke up. Long story short, it was the girl I confronted him about a month before breaking up. He got mad at his friends for starting a "rumor" and didn't really talk to them at all. He deceived me, lied to me, and tried to hide it from me. But you know what, I found out. It hurts like hell, because being betrayed by the one you love is one of the worst feelings. He claims he still loves me, but we're just not good for each other right now. His exact words. I guess what I'm trying to say is, be aware. There is definitely a possibility she won't be completely honest with you. Finding out my ex wasn't honest with me, absolutely destroyed me. I agree that everyone makes mistakes, but lies are not mistakes. Deceiving people are not mistakes. They can be forgiven, but they are fully aware of what they are doing, which causes them to act the way they do. If you can work out your problems and forgive, your relationship should be better than ever! If I were you, I wouldn't out myself through this. I would want to know right away, so I know I wasn't being strung along and wasting my time, you know?
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