lovejoy41 Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Hello Friends, I try not to drive you guys too crazy with too many updates on my progress but it feels good to post on here. I am still in NC with my ex fwb of 5 years. I haven't seen him in 1mo & 3weeks now. I haven't contacted him anymore since 7/26& I managed to ignore him when he text me on 8/3. Somehow I think he knows that I'm done with him. I had managed to lower my self esteem to the point of only seeing him once a month when we were still together. Even as I sit here and type this, I know that seeing him only once a month should've have been enough for me to walk months ago, but considering that I didn't know about his live in gf I embraced it(no excuse but I did). There's not much to walk away from when you're only seeing someone once a month is there? In a positive light, not seeing him often made it easier for me to walk away and it's made it somewhat easier to get over him. In the past he'd given me many chances to opt-out knowing that I wouldn't have the guts to do it. So, this time around I wasn't "the girl who cried wolf". I walked away without warning. However, I don't regret it. No matter how much I hurt I will no longer be his option or "Fall back Girl". Even though it hurts, I care about him, and I miss him, I can't help but remember how he hurt me & how much of an a**clown he was to me. I will never forget that. The thing is, I value my worth. Since the BU I've asked myself.. "Why would you want to even be with a man who doesn't want to be with you"? "Why would you want a man like that to want you"? Anyone out there who's hurting from a FWB BU, hang in there. These types of relationships can really tear into a person's self esteem if you stay in it long enough like I did. Even those of you going through a regular BU, separation, or divorce, just hang in there. I'm sure most of us have all done things with our exes that we are now ashamed of. One thing is certain, we did it because we loved them and you can't help who you love. I just wanted to say take it one day at a time, moving on starts with you wanting to move on, and know that it's not you, it's them. Love yourself and remember truly loving someone is loving them enough to let them go. That's my update & to sum it all up.... I'm doing just fine. For all of you going through it I have posted a link below to a song my friend suggested that helped her get through a BU and I really love this song. The song is "Doing just Fine" by Boyz to Men. Remember one day you will be "Doing just fine". 1
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