Is it my profile?

[simpsonic]

I have been on Match.com for about two weeks now. I hear all the time that women get tons of messages and winks. That's not the case for me though. I've gotten maybe 25 messages/winks or so since I joined, and most of them were from people who didn't bother to read my profile. I posted six pictures of myself: two head shots and the rest of them full-body shots, doing different activities. This is what my main profile pic looks like:

 

 

Anyway, I wonder if it's my profile that is not attracting enough people. The following text is what I copied and pasted from my profile. Feel free to dissect.

 

 

 

Hi there! I’ve lived in _____ for more than six years now and I still love it as much as I did when I first came here. Besides working full-time for the state, I’m working on my Master’s degree in Library Science part-time. I’m also active in a non-profit organization.

 

I grew up in a military family which allowed me the opportunity to live overseas, thus spawned my love for travel. I have been across the country (by car!) back and forth at least three times and in the last two years I have gone to New York City, Hong Kong, China, and more recently Denmark and Sweden. I hope to explore the rest of Europe in the next few years. Meanwhile, I love the occasional weekend getaway…nothing better than checking out someplace new with a partner who enjoys it as well and talking about everything under the sun on the way. You know the saying, it’s not just the destination, it is also the journey!

 

Close friends would describe me as an easygoing, introverted person; I enjoy the simple things in life, like reading a good book, trying out different restaurants and playing games like Scrabble and trivia. But unlike the typical introvert, I enjoy singing karaoke when I have the chance! I also enjoy dancing and checking out activities in different places downtown. I have also recently taken up running...I will be running my first 5k in September, which I’m pretty excited about.

 

My ideal relationship would consist of complete and utter comfort, the kind where we can be completely ourselves around each other. Picture ourselves in a room, where you may be on the computer and I may be doing a Sudoku puzzle in complete silence. But the silence doesn’t faze us because we are comfortable with each other. We could be spending a quiet night at home one day, and sampling a new hotspot the next. Throw in good conversation, lots of laughter and opportunities to learn from one another with great enthusiasm, and we’ve got a recipe of the kind of relationship that I seek. I would treat my partner like I would my family and friends: with lots of love, care, trust and respect. I put a lot of thought into the important people in my life, and that includes my potential partner. If all this sounds ideal, drop me a line!

 

 

 

 

Any suggestions are appreciated.

Edited August 19, 2012 by simpsonic

[venusianx13]

I think you are beautiful and well spoken. I'd venture to say that a lot of men are intimidated by this. You know what? The good ones will read what you have to say and will be impressed. It may take a little bit of waiting, though... but it's worth it to bypass all the creeps!

[soccerrprp]

I have been on Match.com for about two weeks now. I hear all the time that women get tons of messages and winks. That's not the case for me though. I've gotten maybe 25 messages/winks or so since I joined, and most of them were from people who didn't bother to read my profile. I posted six pictures of myself: two head shots and the rest of them full-body shots, doing different activities. This is what my main profile pic looks like:

 

 

Anyway, I wonder if it's my profile that is not attracting enough people. The following text is what I copied and pasted from my profile. Feel free to dissect.

 

 

 

Hi there! I’ve lived in _____ for more than six years now and I still love it as much as I did when I first came here. Besides working full-time for the state, I’m working on my Master’s degree in Library Science part-time. I’m also active in a non-profit organization.

 

I grew up in a military family which allowed me the opportunity to live overseas, thus spawned my love for travel. I have been across the country (by car!) back and forth at least three times and in the last two years I have gone to New York City, Hong Kong, China, and more recently Denmark and Sweden. I hope to explore the rest of Europe in the next few years. Meanwhile, I love the occasional weekend getaway…nothing better than checking out someplace new with a partner who enjoys it as well and talking about everything under the sun on the way. You know the saying, it’s not just the destination, it is also the journey!

 

Close friends would describe me as an easygoing, introverted person; I enjoy the simple things in life, like reading a good book, trying out different restaurants and playing games like Scrabble and trivia. But unlike the typical introvert, I enjoy singing karaoke when I have the chance! I also enjoy dancing and checking out activities in different places downtown. I have also recently taken up running...I will be running my first 5k in September, which I’m pretty excited about.

 

My ideal relationship would consist of complete and utter comfort, the kind where we can be completely ourselves around each other. Picture ourselves in a room, where you may be on the computer and I may be doing a Sudoku puzzle in complete silence. But the silence doesn’t faze us because we are comfortable with each other. We could be spending a quiet night at home one day, and sampling a new hotspot the next. Throw in good conversation, lots of laughter and opportunities to learn from one another with great enthusiasm, and we’ve got a recipe of the kind of relationship that I seek. I would treat my partner like I would my family and friends: with lots of love, care, trust and respect. I put a lot of thought into the important people in my life, and that includes my potential partner. If all this sounds ideal, drop me a line!

 

 

 

 

Any suggestions are appreciated.

 

I like your profile, but the library science thing hints of "geek." I apologize, but I don't mind it at all, but that's one thing. Another is the TYPICAL I love to travel, been everywhere lines. I know men who are just sick of such, but understand that that's the woman's way of saying I don't want to just sit around.

 

The other thing is 25 messages/winks in two weeks is not a lot? You are talking about men. They tend not to read the entire profile before communicating. At least that's what women say. I always read the entire profile, personally.

 

Just my thoughts. Perhaps useless.

[CarrieT]

My ideal relationship would consist of complete and utter comfort, the kind where we can be completely ourselves around each other. Picture ourselves in a room, where you may be on the computer and I may be doing a Sudoku puzzle in complete silence. But the silence doesn’t faze us because we are comfortable with each other. We could be spending a quiet night at home one day, and sampling a new hotspot the next. Throw in good conversation, lots of laughter and opportunities to learn from one another with great enthusiasm, and we’ve got a recipe of the kind of relationship that I seek. I would treat my partner like I would my family and friends: with lots of love, care, trust and respect. I put a lot of thought into the important people in my life, and that includes my potential partner. If all this sounds ideal, drop me a line!

 

Not that it is a bad thing, but I hate to say that most women write this type of thing (except for the Soduko). I would enhance your travel bits like adding what you found particularly cool in Hong Kong and Denmark and Sweden; find something quirky about yourself that you can share that someone might find in common. What did you do in those places that was different or interesting?

 

I would hazard to guess that you aren't getting as many hits as you like because you seem perfectly normal and mainstream.

 

Also, two weeks is not that long. My last sting with OLD took me almost two years and 50+ dates before I found "the one."

 

Just be patient and stick it out. Good luck!

[simpsonic]

I like your profile, but the library science thing hints of "geek." I apologize, but I don't mind it at all, but that's one thing. Another is the TYPICAL I love to travel, been everywhere lines. I know men who are just sick of such, but understand that that's the woman's way of saying I don't want to just sit around.

 

The other thing is 25 messages/winks in two weeks is not a lot? You are talking about men. They tend not to read the entire profile before communicating. At least that's what women say. I always read the entire profile, personally.

 

Just my thoughts. Perhaps useless.

 

 

Not useless at all! I appreciate your input. Yeah, I think you're right that the travel part sounds a bit trite. Would love to hear more suggestions.

 

25 messages/winks doesn't seem like a lot to me because my female peers who are also doing OLD have told me they have literally gotten like 100 in a week. So it seems like I'm not doing as well, ha ha. From the posts I've seen here on LS, it seems that men tend have a difficult time on OLD, but it doesn't mean it's any easier for women!

[simpsonic]

I checked my email right after reading everyone's responses to this thread and I got more winks in 1 hour than I have in the last week, and got an email from a promising candidate. Strange that all this is happening all of a sudden, ha ha. I haven't even edited my profile yet!

[simpsonic]

It is called Loveshack Karma, when positive people band together to give positive insight on someones issue/problem - good things happen.

 

Karma indeed.