zblawi Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Hi there so the story goes like this: i had this relationship with a girl i like for about 1 year and the problem is that i was new to this and acted so slow and shy (after i confessed my feelings for her). Thinking back i made alot of bad choices that made her like she is not my 1st priority and to my ignorance she actually addressed this one time but she did it as all girls do, vaguely. That led her to tell me that it won't work because she thinks i don't have genuine feelings towards her (she really cared about me). Definitely i paniced, argued and tried to change my way of treating her being more caring and attentive and that lead her to be in a dilemma : she can't push away her feelings of the relationship not going to work because she fears she might get hurt again, and accepting my true feeling (i am really in love with her) while insisting i am a great person. sometimes she asked me to give her time and space but i really couldn't(sadly) because i felt she is just trying to make me forget about her and move on. i tried then to stay away to calm down and have an insight of the problem so as to recognize my mistakes and as i did she kept sending mixed signals like trying to make me jealous, tried to avoid my treats, when i go no contact she sends me how am i doing and so, and sometimes calling me pet names and jokes we used to had. so i couldn't cope with this ambiguous state so i told her i am sorry for the way i treated her and admired her mature way of dealing with the problem and told her how i am ashamed of how i treated her in z past and how i dealt with the problem and asked her not to hate me. She replied that she cannot hate me even if she wanted and i have a special room in her heart and she wishes me the best because i deserve it. And when i asked her if she'll ever change her mind she said she thought about it a lot and she can't see it working and that i really need to move on and i can find so much better girls because am a great guy. and she also asked me if we can still be good friends unless it will hurt my feelings. i really think the answer is in the bottom lines but need advice to make sure i won't make another big mistake and move on. thats a summary of the whole thing and sorry for the bad english
Simon Phoenix Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 You have to move on for your own sanity. She's told you straight out that she doesn't see it working and she's just talking to you because you are an easy ego boost. When you go no contact you have to actually go no contact and not contact her for any reason. It doesn't matter what she sends you, do not respond. And you need to do this until you have no inclination or want to talk to her again. I think you are pretty much done with this girl, but any shot you might have (which is less than one percent) will disappear the longer you stay in contact with her.
Author zblawi Posted August 21, 2012 Author Posted August 21, 2012 thx simon for the reply i thought so but i was kind of not accepting it another problem is that we attend the same classes (all of them), so how am i going to react to her now?
Simon Phoenix Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 thx simon for the reply i thought so but i was kind of not accepting it another problem is that we attend the same classes (all of them), so how am i going to react to her now? Be friendly but short. If she says hi, say hi but don't ask her about her day or what she's been doing. If she asks you, keep your answers short and vague.
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