Disenchantedly Yours Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I found this article interesting because of the lengthy discussions we have on LS about women's bodies. Apparently, men perceive their own weight as less than it is while they perceive women's weight more than it is. Men also perceive their partner's weight inaccurately and will even think women that are normal or under-weight as being over weight. Interesting stuff and something to think about.
FitChick Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I think you mean SOME men. SOME women are the same as well, i.e. they are "curvy" not fat. Those of us who are into health and fitness are less inclined to be delusional. 9
Greznog Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 That's curious because OLD especially is riddled with women who think they're curvy because technically a sphere is one continuous curve. 5
carhill Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I always guessed my exW's weight as less than it was. Imagine Valerie Bertinelli at her heaviest. I think when we divorced she was around 170 on our digital scale, not much different than when we met 11 years prior. For myself, her weight was never an issue. That said, I'm generally outlier in numerous aspects of male behavior so a bad example of generalities.
ThaWholigan Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Can't say it's a very accurate study, especially considering it's 1000 people - in Denmark . I've often had people overrate my weight a lot, even when I was at my leanest. I've always had an honest reflection of my weight (It's 225lbs by the way). Women's weight is usually under the microscope from other women and fashion-obsessed men/women in my observations, while men aren't that bothered about her weight (admittedly this depends on whether she actually is fat or not - and even then quite a few guys like that). 3
Radu Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I found this article interesting because of the lengthy discussions we have on LS about women's bodies. Apparently, men perceive their own weight as less than it is while they perceive women's weight more than it is. Men also perceive their partner's weight inaccurately and will even think women that are normal or under-weight as being over weight. Interesting stuff and something to think about. You know why men perceive women's weight innacurately ? Because we don't go around measuring it to get that carney job. 1
Badsingularity Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Like I said in the other thread. The study bases what is fat and what is not on the BMI. The BMI is often inaccurate, because of this, so is the study.
Author Disenchantedly Yours Posted August 19, 2012 Author Posted August 19, 2012 *shrug*, you could laugh at any study. People always manage to find away to descredit information that doesn't agree with what they believe. But I personally think the study is on target probably with how men judge women and their bodies vs how women do too. It's not uncommon for men to think they look good when they don't and for women to be extra hard on themselve. It's not uncommon for men to be hard on women for their weight in ways they aren't on themselves. I think it's very realistic that men hold unrealistic ideals about what a woman should weight. The study might not be writen in gold but I think it has some merit.
soccerrprp Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I'm certain you all have noticed the new AVERAGE when going on online dating sites. Many women who characterize themselves as AVERAGE were yesterdays "over-weight." The unfortunate thing is that they are correct. In the USA (especially), we are becoming heavier, so the new average is not looking too healthy. There are ladies (i only look at the ladies) who will even go as far to claim they're athletic or fit when clearly they are not. I'm certain the men do this as well on their profiles. But, the weird thing is that the modeling world is getting skinnier or hasn't changed in it's perception of the idea girl. What is up with this?
Badsingularity Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 It's not uncommon for men to be hard on women for their weight The people I have seen be the most hard on women directly to their face about their weight is other women. My wife is thin. She is soft but realy doesn't have any fat on her. I have seen both her mother and her aunt, literally pinch her stomach and say, looks like you getting a little fat or pudge there. I couldn't believe what I was seeing. Especially since they were both overweight themselves. 3
Badsingularity Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 But, the weird thing is that the modeling world is getting skinnier or hasn't changed in it's perception of the idea girl. What is up with this? The modeling world is messed up. They like the models to look sick. Like many other guys have already said. I and no guy I know finds that look attractive. 2
Radu Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 It has merit, but not in the way you perceive it to have merit.
Crusoe Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I always guessed my exW's weight as less than it was. So did I. It was an act of self preservation. 1
carhill Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 So did I. It was an act of self preservation. Never considered that one but thanks for that.
Radu Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 So did I. It was an act of self preservation. I wish my father had told me this before i messed it up the first few times.
xxoo Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 According to the BMI, I'm a little "underweight'. I'd be offended if my H said I was underweight (I don't think I look underweight, and my doctor isn't concerned about my weight) According to the BMI, I could gain 35 pounds and still be "healthy" weight. That's more than I weighed 9 months pregnant! To be very honest, I think I'd look overweight at that weight. I'd definitely have rolls in my abdomen. 1
Titanwolf Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Yeah I agree, the BMI system is flawed. Apparently, I'm overweight and should seek medical advice
Crusoe Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I wish my father had told me this before i messed it up the first few times. Standard procedure, old boy. "Sweetheart, you don't look a day older than when I first met you" "Your ar*e looks fantastic in that, just don't keep wiggling it in front of me or we'll never get out the door" "I'm so lucky that your mum is my mother in law" Pub! 1
EasyHeart Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 No one can guess a woman's weight just by looking at her. I never know how much a woman weighs until the first time I carry her. 1
runningfar Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 who will even go as far to claim they're athletic or fit when clearly they are not. I am athletic/fit and you could not tell it by looking at me. Overweight too! Doesn't change that I can run 100k, qualify for Boston in the marathon-- or the amount of time I spend rock climbing, hiking, etc. It doesn't change that I spend way more time working out than most people I know. To be fair, I would never describe myself as anything but overweight for what people can actually tolerate. I don't see anything wrong with someone having a preferred body type... I do... but assuming the body type is indicative of health or fitness pisses me off a little. I am healthier in terms of blood work etc and can out-go most of my friends despite being larger than most of them. (Surprisingly, very few of my friends are overweight even by a little bit. I am not obese.)
ascendotum Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I found this article interesting because of the lengthy discussions we have on LS about women's bodies. Apparently, men perceive their own weight as less than it is while they perceive women's weight more than it is. Men also perceive their partner's weight inaccurately and will even think women that are normal or under-weight as being over weight. Interesting stuff and something to think about. the article talked about BMI, but in terms of weight I suspect guys have distorted estimates of weight between themselves and women, because of the different muscle/fat distribution between the sexes. Fat weighs less for the same volume. Really for the vast majority of guy's when they first meet a woman, he does not do any sort estimate in his head. Its just simply, does he find her appealing for her physique. What the scales say does not matter if they find her sexy. Not having met the women, say like with OLD, then if they were provided with weight as a stat it would undoubtedly influence their decision, just like height, build, salary stats do for women. Many women who characterize themselves as AVERAGE were yesterdays "over-weight." The unfortunate thing is that they are correct. In the USA (especially), we are becoming heavier, so the new average is not looking too healthy.Spot on. 2
mesmerized Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Men always underestimate my weight. I was on a date a few weeks ago with an athletic guy. The issue of weight came up and I said I want to lose some weight. He said, why? you can't be more than 115. When I told him my weight he found it strange. He started checking me out up and down carefully a few times and then said with a smile, I know where all the weight is.
Greznog Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Men always underestimate my weight. I was on a date a few weeks ago with an athletic guy. The issue of weight came up and I said I want to lose some weight. He said, why? you can't be more than 115. When I told him my weight he found it strange. He started checking me out up and down carefully a few times and then said with a smile, I know where all the weight is. I hate to break this to you but we do this for the same reason we always manage to be a few years off when it comes to guessing how old you are. Not being able to imagine she's really 30 is the equivalent of pouring about two martini's down her throat only it's free and legal to sleep with her afterwards. 1
Author Disenchantedly Yours Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 Not being able to imagine she's really 30 is the equivalent of pouring about two martini's down her throat only it's free and legal to sleep with her afterwards. You're such a lovely man. It's a wonder why you have issues with women at all.
Greznog Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 You're such a lovely man. It's a wonder why you have issues with women at all. I know, the things I had to resort to in my younger years. Luckily I no longer have to go after older women for easy access.
Recommended Posts