red.velvet Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 so yesterday, my boyfriend got mad at me because it was my last weekend in the country and I spent it with my friends instead of with him. I am leaving for work for a year and we wil have to long distance. I apologized and told him we would spend the next four days together before I left. he told me it was okay and that I should have fun with my friends and that he was cool. I text him later to ask him if we could talk because I just wanted to know how his day was and he ignored my text. I text him again today to find if he was okay and he ignored me again. i'm now angry coz I think he is being rude. Also, I leave in 4 days, I cant imagine that he will spend this time ignoring me. what should I do? Could he possibly still be angry??
Author red.velvet Posted August 19, 2012 Author Posted August 19, 2012 thanks! I guess I deserve it. Although I did apologize and when he said he was okay, I believed him. What to do to get him to forgive me?
Author red.velvet Posted August 19, 2012 Author Posted August 19, 2012 I am sorry and I feel really bad. He actually even said that he understood that I needed time with my friends. We have four days that we can spend with each other and the reason I'm getting mad is because, seeing as the damage is done and I apologozed, he should move passed this and make the best of the four days left. Anyway, I need him to forgive me.
Art_Critic Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Honestly it sounds to me that he is re-thinking things... Maybe he is wondering if the whole LDR thing is right for him... Time for a serious talk.. LDR's take lots of communication and if tells you one thing but feels another then it will fail...
Author red.velvet Posted August 19, 2012 Author Posted August 19, 2012 I hope thats not the case. I don't want to lose him. We have talked about having a LDR a lot!! He is even the one who suggested it.
Greznog Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I am sorry and I feel really bad. He actually even said that he understood that I needed time with my friends. We have four days that we can spend with each other and the reason I'm getting mad is because, seeing as the damage is done and I apologozed, he should move passed this and make the best of the four days left. Anyway, I need him to forgive me. Oh yeah he understood, he's just not happy about your main priority being your friends. He doesn't have to move past ****, personally I would've broken up with you . Firstly because LDR are nonsense and secondly because you chose to spend your last weekend with your friends rather than you partner. 1
nessaaa Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I am sorry and I feel really bad. He actually even said that he understood that I needed time with my friends. We have four days that we can spend with each other and the reason I'm getting mad is because, seeing as the damage is done and I apologozed, he should move passed this and make the best of the four days left. Anyway, I need him to forgive me. He needs to get his **** straight. Just because he's your boyfriend it doesn't mean you have to put him first ESP before your friends... And he's proving right now that he's not worth putting him first by ignoring you over something so stupid. It's not like u spent your last day with your friends, u guys got a couple days left and he's spending it ignoring you... What a sucky baby. Can't u visit him? Show up at his house.
nessaaa Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 thanks! I guess I deserve it. Although I did apologize and when he said he was okay, I believed him. What to do to get him to forgive me? No you don't deserve it. Your life doesn't have to revolve around him.
Greznog Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 No you don't deserve it. Your life doesn't have to revolve around him. It doesn't have to, just like he doesn't have to accept being priority #19 right above picking up the dry cleaning and slightly below getting a manicure.
Lonely Ronin Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Please please stop talking.... In a serious relationship, your significant other almost always comes first, short of immediate family related issues. He needs to get his **** straight. Just because he's your boyfriend it doesn't mean you have to put him first ESP before your friends... And he's proving right now that he's not worth putting him first by ignoring you over something so stupid. It's not like u spent your last day with your friends, u guys got a couple days left and he's spending it ignoring you... What a sucky baby. Can't u visit him? Show up at his house. 1
nessaaa Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 It doesn't have to, just like he doesn't have to accept being priority #19 right above picking up the dry cleaning and slightly below getting a manicure. I understand if it was her last day or something... But it's not.. She wants time with her friends before she leaves, omg what a sin.
nessaaa Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 She is quite the tattle tale so I will reserve my comments. tattle tale?
Greznog Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I understand if it was her last day or something... But it's not.. She wants time with her friends before she leaves, omg what a sin. She could've prioritized her partner before her friends, I know this is a shocking idea to women born after the 1940's but it's really possible.
Lonely Ronin Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I understand if it was her last day or something... But it's not.. She wants time with her friends before she leaves, omg what a sin. It has nothing to do with the fact that she wanted to spend time with her friends, how your not capable of seeing that is beyond me. It has everything to do with when she spent time with them.
nessaaa Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 She could of spent time with her friends with her remaining four days, it is called prioritizing. That is what people do who are in relationships. Why does it matter so much, and is it that serious that he has to ignore her?? I think he's just mad he didn't get his way. Lawls what do I know anyways.. This is why i don't do relationships. Maybe u guys are right.
nessaaa Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Yes I have had heated discussion with you before and you went running to the mods. Hence getting in infraction. ??? No I didn't, lmfao LOL..oh yes I'm going to run to the mods cuz it's that serious.can't believe u said that. And I don't even remember us having heated disscussion.
ThaWholigan Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Yes I have had heated discussion with you before and you went running to the mods. Hence getting in infraction. Again - the mods delete stuff all on their own, they don't need anyone to alert them half the time.
Author red.velvet Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 Wow! So according to most of you, I did do something wrong. I think I have acknowledged that and apologized. Infact I have tried apologizing again and he is still ignoring me. I'm getting extremely irritated with him, as in its not like I killed someone. Besides, he had not asked to spend time with me this last weekend, so I gave the time to people who had asked and now he is giving me grief??!! I couldnt have read his mind. The damage is already done, I have apologized, I know I was wrong, but he wount let it go. 3 days left.... Way forward? I feel like just leaving him alone.
Author red.velvet Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 Alex, I am not 19. you are getting offensive, which is unneccessary.
Greznog Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 He's just telling it like it is. You can apologize all you want but that doesn't change the fact that you've showed him where your priorities lie ( not with your partner ).
Emilia Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Yes I have had heated discussion with you before and you went running to the mods. Hence getting in infraction. That's everyone's right! If you can't behave yourself expect to be told off. I have been reported myself and I report people as well. Maybe it was me that reported you, not nessaaa. Shaming is very uncool , don't try to bully her into silence! 1
Emilia Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Besides, he had not asked to spend time with me this last weekend, so I gave the time to people who had asked and now he is giving me grief??!! He has crap conflict handing skills, this will not work in a long distance relationship. Is this a little game between you? Not asking each other? Fighting?
Author red.velvet Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 This sucks!! I honestly did not think it was this big of a deal. Well then, I'll have to show him that he is a priority. I have postponed my trip, I love him too much to leave things like this. I just hope he talks to me sooner than later.
Emilia Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 This sucks!! I honestly did not think it was this big of a deal. Well then, I'll have to show him that he is a priority. I have postponed my trip, I love him too much to leave things like this. I just hope he talks to me sooner than later. Does he disappear like this after an argument often?
Author red.velvet Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 Emilia, he does disappear but when I contact him he never ignores. Its usually for an hour or so and after I apologize he gets back to normal. He has never been this upset with me though, this one is an extreme reaction.
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