sigurpol Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 To give a quick rundown, this girl and I were talking back in early June. Went out on a date, had a great time, and we both said we should do this again soon. After I attempted to make plans with her again, I noticed she wasn't getting back to me and assumed it wasn't working out. Then she called me. She explained that did in fact think I was great guy and would love to see more of me, but realized that she doesn't want to date anyone right now. If I don't mind, she would still want to hang out. Fine by me. I also appreciated her being very upfront about the entire situation. I didn't ask to see her after that, but we kept in touch here and there. Fast forward to earlier this month: she gets a hold of me to say hi, ask how I've been. We make quick plans to meet that night and it was a bit awkward because I was trying to gauge what time would work and I wasn't getting a straight answer. We settled on "around 9" but she added she'll let me know for sure, since she was running around at home. I saw and waited until I got a text that said, "leaving now!" But that night, again, went really well. Flirted, had fun and she invited me to go out with her that weekend to a place near her house. Unfortunately, I had to bail because something came up with work. We said we would reschedule. Last week she got a hold of me and said I should stop by this coffee shop cause she was there for a bit. I did and things were fine as usual. That night she gets a hold of me again and says that she wants to take me out sometime soon and asked if I would like that. I said I would and what could work. "I don't know, when we're both free" "Well yeah, obviously. Did you have a particular day in mind, though?" "Sometime next week" Personally, it's a pet peeve of mine; just SAY the date/time you're thinking of. Or at least say something so I don't come off as a crazy person. I told her we would figure it out as the weekend approaches. At this point I told myself I was gonna take the reigns and just suggest a day, time, and place and that I would pick her up. I asked about a day and we picked one for next week. But assuming she wanted to take me out and offered the plans, I figured she would have something in mind already. Nope, after she said a certain day would work, that's all that was said. I don't know. I guess it's just part of her personality to figure out things the day of? I don't want to keep getting a hold of her to solidify plans, but then again.. how do I PLAN for it if I don't know when it is.
utterer of lies Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 She explained that did in fact think I was great guy and would love to see more of me, but realized that she doesn't want to date anyone right now. If I don't mind, she would still want to hang out. Fine by me. I also appreciated her being very upfront about the entire situation. I didn't ask to see her after that, but we kept in touch here and there. What she actually explained is that you are not boyfriend material for her. She will spend time with you, but only if the guys she's interested in are busy. Stop wasting time. 1
Author sigurpol Posted August 19, 2012 Author Posted August 19, 2012 What she actually explained is that you are not boyfriend material for her. She will spend time with you, but only if the guys she's interested in are busy. Stop wasting time. Fair enough
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