BrokenAnna Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I had a heart to heart conversation with my father last night about my breakup and how I have been handling it. As you know my father and ex has a very close relationship and till this day my ex would call and visit to see how my father is doing in battling cancer. Generally I dislike disclosing information about my personal life to my parents but last night I just opened up and told my father everything. I told him about everything I did and how I used to manipulate my ex and how I needed validation when my insecurities were starting to set in. Also I told him how confused I was on how Wayne(My ex) was handling the whole situation as I expected him to go NC and never hear from him again. This is where my father stopped me and told me what my ex told him right after the breakup. He told my father that since we spent 12 years together it was important for him to preserve those memories and not spoil it in the heat of the moment with words of hate and anger. The last impression is as good as the first, if not more since it is in that light that you will be remembered by. These words struck me hard and I have been thinking about it all day...was he keeping the door open for a possible reconciliation? or is it once again a way to placate me? I am still madly in love with my ex and wish it was as simple as to pick up the phone and tell him, unfortunately it isn't as my heart starts racing when I start typing in his number. Opinions and advice would be greatly appreciated. Anna
Pogona Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I don't know Anna...that is a tough situation. But I think that assuming that what your ex said to your father is "keeping the door open for a possible reconciliation" is jumping the gun. A lot. He didn't intend for you to ever know that, so how could that be it? Just because he wants to remember you in a positive light, doesn't mean he thinks that you two should be together.
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