sunnywinter Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Need some guy's opinion here: Simply put about our history: we broke up because he wanted to slow down, and I could not handle it well and exert more stress/pressure onto the relationship. So now we agreed the following: 1) he will keep "dating" me with the hope to go back to the initial feelings, although he emphasized "he cannot guarantee the future"; 2) I go out to date other people so that I don't put all the hope on him. So my plan for the next month or so is: 1. Go on online dating; - in progress 2. In two weeks, keep low contact with him - basically just talk to him when he calls; he is going back to visit family in Europe from next weekend till Sep 3, and I want to take this period of time to do the low/no contact; 3. On Sep 3, Pick him up at the airport and thus have a one-hour convo in the car to re-start the communication; 4. On the next weekend, he planned to help me move and go for Ikea shopping. We probably will do this together with his younger brother who is visiting for a month; 5. Following that, I plan to hang out with him and his brother together for a couple of times - his younger brother can't drive so he has to take him to places, and I feel it is a good chance to establish good momentum with his family. So my question for guys here is: 1. Do you think this plan make sense? Your comments? 2. Why do you think he wants me to date other people? 3. I attracted many guys on line, for example, I lined up 5 dates over the weekend and all the people I dated in the past week wanted to have a 2nd date. Should I mention these to my ex bf? If yes, how? (to avoid the impression that I am trying to get him jealous?) 4. During the time when his brother visits, what do you think I should do/leverage to help with my plan of getting back together with him? For example, If I offer to take his brother around, do you think if this will help us? Very much appreciate your comments!
salmagundi Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Ok I'm a guy and I'm sorry I don't have much time for a more detailed response but here's my opinion anyway. I think your plan feels too much...like a plan. It seems contrived, artificial and programmatic. I don't know but my instinct doesn't see love growing out of this. It almost sounds desperate. But if it works, then I guess i was wrong, right?
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