The only woman I've ever actually been in love with broke up with me

[Twitch]

I started dating a younger girl after a one night stand. Originally, I wasn't going to call her back but for some reason I did, we started kind of seeing each other after. We didn't really get serious until after she fell one night, got knocked out and I rushed her to hospital.

 

Shortly after we started talking she told me she is physically disabled, the only way you can tell is she limps and doesn't have the best handwriting. I took it upon myself to start helping her, lift things, open stuff, fix things, just whatever she needs.

 

I've fallen in love with her, she's gorgeous, she's a sweetheart, she's the most intelligent person I know, she's funny, she's wonderful. I usually dont fall for girls, people have called me a "player" but this girl is different.

 

We broke up three months ago because she wants to get married and have babies. I'd marry her in a heartbeat, but I had a vasectomy about four years ago and can't have kids. Had I known I was going to meet this girl two years later I would've had second thoughts.

 

She started talking to someone else, it's breaking my heart I don't want to eat, I can't sleep, I don't want to go out with my friends, I haven't been seeing anyone just been trying to get through the days.

 

I worry about her a lot, she needs help doing things sometimes and I worry about her getting hurt constantly.

 

I want this girl, I need this girl, I don't want her with anyone else. I want her to be with me.

 

What do I do?

[Jennifer2012]

It sounds like you like her because you like feeling needed. That's not necessarily a bad thing, but this girl is young and wants kids. You can't provide that. You need to really leave her alone and let her be.

[Twitch]

I will admit I do like when she calls me for help. I like that I can help her if she needs me, but that's not all of it. I love talking to her, she actually understands and contributes to the conversation, unlike the girl I was with before her.

 

She gave that whole "let's be friends" deal, I don't think I can do just that...

[Balzac]

Seems like crazy logic in my world. Procedures to amend vasectomy are common. Absent that option, she would have her biological child by alternate means, you must have meant to say you are unwilling to father?

[oracle]

That sounds like a cheap excuse on her part, and an easy excuse for her to end it.

 

Rule 1 - Nothing is as it seems

[oracle]

... Oh are you don't NEED anyone. Neediness is a terrible trait and one that will drive people away. You need to be strong on your own for you to be an attractive mate to someone else.

 

To have your happiness resting on "BEING" with someone else is a terrible starting point to be living your life from. In a way you are creating your own prison.

[Twitch]

I guess need is the wrong word, I WANT her. She came over for dinner last night and we cuddled after. I whispered in her ear that she's the most beautiful woman I've ever seen, she is the only girl I've ever been in love with and I want to make her the happiest girl in the world. Then she started to cry and we fell asleep.